Make love (even when you gotta make war)

The most important mistake humanity makes, I think, in addition to the killing, and aggression, and general meanspiritedness, is waiting for someone else to love them.

If you are waiting for someone to love you, you are wasting your time.

Love comes to those who have it to offer. Love, as Clint Black wisely croons, is something that we do. And love, like everything else, comes most to those who have the most to offer. What comes around goes around. And that includes all the good stuff like love.

If you are waiting for love, you are going to be waiting a long time. Because love comes to those who work on having it to offer.

If you want love, or you're unhappy because you feel like you don't have enough love in your life, the path to happiness is making it available to others, not waiting for it to come your way.

If you want to be loved, then your task is to work on loving. Lots of it. As much as possible.

And, if you listen to haters, expect to get as much love as they get. Meaning, very little. The scraps from the table of those rich in this most valuable commodity.

If you build it, it will come. For reals, homey.

Take that from a lover. And a fighter. But, mostly, a lover. Or at least I'll love the fuck out of you while I'm beatin' your ass, if that's what you need.

But most people don't need more ass-beating. Most people need more love. And they won't find it until they get off their lazy asses and start sharing it with others. Slackers.

Make love. Even when you need to make war.

And work on making a world where we make love and not war, as much as is humanly possible.

And that happens when you pitch in. And offer up all the love you have to contribute.

The problem with the world is not too little Hitler and too much King. That couldn't get more obvious, really, when we aren't bullshitting, all the time.

More love + less ass-beating = real progress. Where people get treated better.

And that's frankly what everyone wants, when we get really honest.

Back to your regularly scheduled bullshit.

Bullshit is bullshit

A reality check for those convinced that a controlled economy is better than a free one.

Cubans Debate Future of Socialism

"'The vendors there are criminals,' said one woman, to nods of agreement.

It didn't seem like the kind of deep-searching probe of the nation's problems that President Raul Castro solicited when he called for a national dialogue on the future of the country's socialist system in an August speech.

Since then, authorities have set up discussions at universities, government workplaces and under the glow of street lamps. Community organizations called Committees for the Defense of the Revolution - created in part to root out anti-government activity - are now tasked with collecting criticism of the socialist system, along with suggestions for how to reform it.

Declining revenues and mounting debts have stretched the Cuban government to the point that it must trim some of its longstanding entitlement programs, Castro told the National Assembly during the August speech.

'Nobody, no individual nor country, can indefinitely spend more than she or he earns. Two plus two always adds up to four, never five,' he said. 'Within the conditions of our imperfect socialism, due to our own shortcomings, two plus two often adds up to three.'

That losing formula has the Cuban government increasingly exhorting its citizens to work harder, expect less and come up with solutions to their own problems.

The input is funneled upward to Cuba's leaders and will ostensibly be used to guide the reform process. Similar discussions soliciting criticism and ideas were gathered during a round of open-air discussions called by Castro in 2007. The government collected 1.3 million opinions from residents during that period, Castro said, nearly half of which were criticisms of one problem or another.

While Cuban authorities have made it clear that major political and economic reforms to the country's one-party system are not on the discussion agenda, participants at the meetings are being encouraged to speak freely and openly about problems in their daily lives.

Many Cubans simmer with frustration brought by chronic transportation and housing shortages, a gargantuan state bureaucracy and salaries that average roughly $20 a month, even though most consumer goods in state-run stores are priced above what they would cost in the United States.

Subsidies for food, utilities and other basics offset those meager earnings, but as the government's fortunes decline, authorities are increasingly telling Cubans to tackle their own problems. One high-ranking party official recently said Cubans can't expect for the 'daddy state' to fix everything, waiting with open mouths 'like baby birds.'

Such a statement is 'offensive' to the Cuban people, said dissident economist Oscar Espinosa Chepe, who has spent time in prison for his opposition to the government.

'This system was designed to control everyone, so it's absurd that the official propaganda talks about the ‘daddy state,'' he said, referring to Cuba's government-run media. 'It's as if the Cuban people were to blame for this economic debacle, and not the government. The government is to blame for the way Cubans behave, because this is the system it created.'"

Free peoples are free for a reason. It's not an evil conspiracy. Or a failed utopia.

It's the best that we have to offer. And the best means we will ever have to make it infinitely better.

What we need is more freedom. And more honest and decent treatment of one another. And more of everything that really is our best.

When we're not bullshitting, that is.

And bullshit will always be bullshit, no matter how much we try to manipulate around it.