Sunday, December 31, 2006

Doing good versus looking like you're doing good in the world

I was having a quiet and sweet moment of reflection on Brandi's and my relationship, tonight, as I listened to Dar Williams' Out There Live album.

I thought about a more relaxed and less melodramatic future moment when Brandi and I might catch up. And what I might say.

It occurred to me that Brandi's biggest weakness (she'd kill me for writing this publicly, but noone reads my blog anyway:) was that she was far too concerned about how she looked to others rather than how she felt about herself.

I once really fucked up and made reference to how others perceived her family and their fighting to make a point that she and her family, like me and my family, clearly had a problem with fighting. We both had a serious problem with fighting was the truth, and the only good that came of bringing up family was to illustrate that this was a generational problem for both Brandi and I and that we both had responsibility in the issue.

It was a stupid argument, like almost every argument that Brandi and I had, in retrospect. And I feel bad about it, in retrospect, because it exposed a weakness for Brandi that I was not looking to expose: her fear that others thought badly of her or her family.

I love her family, is the truth, though I'm sure I am a distant and probably not terribly missed memory for her family (except for, perhaps, her sister Sarina, who I was somewhat close with), particularly her mom and grammy who I think thought that I was a trouble-maker who wouldn't hold down a job because I was too outspoken and not responsible enough (the truth was that I was a terrible organizer and time manager, at that point, because I didn't understand, at the time, the importance of either; I'm getting better the better I understand both).

And I just thought about what it was that was so different about Brandi and I that pried us apart. The fighting was an unfortunate commonality that I think I have largely overcome (I'm much better about giving people shit and gently expressing disagreement and saving tough and serious disagreement for important stuff that I can express as nicely as possible, but bluntly when necessary).

But one thing that was very different between Brandi and I that is very different between me and most people, truth be told, is that I am (and was) a lot less concerned about what others think about me than Brandi was/is. Brandi was defensive, as was I too much of the time, but not generally as much as Brandi. Brandi had a really hard time taking criticism or feedback and was very skilled, verbally, at deflecting it. I was not terribly skilled at giving it when I was younger, which may have worn on her. I've gotten much better and think I'm pretty good at it, today, really. It's one of my bigger strengths as a teacher, I think.

But, in the end, Brandi and I were most different in our capacity to live lives for ourselves rather than for others, I think. Where Brandi was more concerned about what others thought about her, poverty and some serious self-confidence just prepared me, better, I think, for a life where I could be myself and be more independent-minded and not be so dependent on others' views of me for what I thought or thought of myself.

I still think Brandi is one of the most confidenct, intelligent, decent, and passionate people I have ever met. Just not as much as me on any of these counts, and on the count of confidence, in particular. Brandi would likely acknowledge this if you caught her in a moment where she wasn't feeling threatened.

It's sad. I never really thought anything bad about it when she and I were friends and when she and I were dating. I just thought it was kind of vulnerable and endearing.

But now I can see that there is a dark side to this kind of insecurity. That it is always seeking ways to deflect attention from itself, to change the subject, and to avoid its own presence. It's always looking, fruitlessly, for ways to fill itself up with false pride and self-righteous assertion and positive image and other things to make one look good rather than being good, more, for real.

It's a common insecurity, really, that everyone, including me, is subject to, and that Brandi is actually far better at confronting than most people I've met in my life.

I now recognize that this is the reason why perception has gotten such discussion in the last 6 years or so. Because the truth is that most people are more concerned with how they look to others than with how they really are, sadly.

I have been more concerned with this, in the past. But I always kind of aspire to be the guy in Footloose who owns the barn across the city line and who wants to let Kevin Bacon and his friends dance, no matter what folks in town think. I just would rather follow my own drummer, generally, than follow the crowd. Brandi likes to follow her own drummer, too. But she sticks closer to the crowd than I do. And she feels less safe veering off course, even if it's a better path.

It is also what makes Brandi more concerned with how others perceive her than I am.

When I think about that, it's a pretty good reason that we were probably not made for one another. Brandi felt safer with people who kept her closer to conventional paths for life.

And I was just too independent in my thinking and in my life to live any other life but the one less traveled.

I probably will be happy making a life with a woman more like me, in this regard. But I miss Brandi. I miss our friendship. I miss knowing how she is doing. I'll miss not keeping up with her life, her kids and family, and just day-to-day interactions.

I'm sure that I will marry someone who is much more confident and independent in her life. But it would nice to know how my friend is doing in her life, despite the fact that she chose a different path.

When Brandi and I were dating, I was so in love, I would have given anything to have our love work out.

Now, with some perspective on Brandi, while I would still do almost anything to sustain real love in my life and relationships, I would never give up my independence for her or any woman. I want someone who can be independent with me and think for herself with intelligence, compassion, and understanding, not someone who has to put her finger in the air to figure out how she thinks about life.

I had that with Brandi better than I have experienced with any woman, up to this point. But in the end, it was not a commitment that Brandi could maintain, I don't think. Who knows what Brandi was/is thinking or was her rationale for leaving for good; Brandi doesn't share it and she's not around anymore to correct the record.

And the more I think about it, the more that explanation makes a lot of sense, the more I think about the kinds of people Brandi was trying to fit in with, and whose opinion - Greg's family, in particular, who seemed kind of snotty and too monied with too little purpose - I could really give two shits about.

I definitely need someone in my life and someone to help raise our children who is not so consumed. I need someone who is more honestly confident in herself and her own independent thoughts and judgments.

I just thought that person was Brandi, and I was disappointed when it became clearer that she was not choosing that kind of life.

As I write about it, I can see that insecurity in myself, as well. Something to let go of, I think. Because the truth is that noone really gives a shit how much money you make or what car you drive except out of envy, which is no good, or when they are looking to find out how they can, fruitlessly, fill that same insecurity in their own life.

I want to fall in love and spend my life with someone not so wrapped up in all that bullshit. And the truth is that this is the kind of person I would want to be with, no matter how much or little money I had. Perhaps I can start by looking at my own insecurities, in this regard, and work at being the kind of confident person that I would like to find in a woman in my life.

The truth is that doing good is not the same thing as looking like you're doing good. And doing good in the world is the only thing that's worth two shits. Because looking like your doing good, especially when you are not, is driven by fear, not by genuine confidence or a genuine concern for doing good. And looking like you're doing good lacks substance that doing good doesn't have to worry about. And, far too often, looking like you're doing good means people lying about what real good they are doing.

And in a million years, I would rather be someone who is doing good than someone who is trying, more, to look like they are doing good. And in a million years, I would rather spend my time with people like this. Especially the woman that I want to spend the rest of my life with.

And I don't give a shit where that lands me in life, as long as I get to keep doing some real good in this life, of some kind, and maintain some semblance of a relatively comfortable life. I wouldn't mind having one person in my life who might more genuinely support and challenge me in that effort. But other than that, I really couldn't give two shits what others might think except insofar as they could persuade me that I am wrong about my general outlook on life or that I'm a kook who needs to humble himself in the face of far better understandings of the world and people.

I wanted Brandi to be that kind of person. Who knows. Maybe she still will be that kind of person. I can only hope so:).

I better get to bed, here:).

Happy New Year, everyone:).

Love,
Ben

I think I'm beginning to understand why the life and the democratic marketplace get so skewed

Smart is not popular. Neither is love, necessarily. And mass appeal is the key to money and power.

And the truth is that so many people, if not most people, are kind of heartsick, lost in all kinds of cynicism and hurt and pain. Most serious issues that affect our lives are matters of the heart. That's why Maslow is a much better person to reflect on the larger issues in the world than so many political observers. Because he understood this better. And because he understood, better, that matters of the heart are best addressed with the heart, not with power.

But most people don't take matters of the heart nearly serious enough, I don't think. Because it hurts. And escaping is so much easier for so many people.

So ambitious people who want to stay close to money and power play to the lowest common denominator, providing every means of escape that people might need. Whether its smart or loving or not.

And hence a world distorted by our obsession with what's popular and thus brings the money and power.

Popular fades and changes quickly. And clever, ambitious people follow those trends to keep up with the money and power. Because the obsession with money and power seems to compensate for the dissappointment with a world full of pain and its many, many sources than does coming to terms with that disappointment.

And generally people who take this path, and all of us, really, lose track of themselves and ourselves in the process.

You know what the most important reason for me not to follow those trends is? Outside of wanting to do work that actually does some good, at some point, whether it's popular or not?

Because I don't want to lose track of myself. And that's worth a lot more to me than any money or power.

And I want to spend my time with friends and family and a woman and kids who don't lose track of themselves. Because money and power is not where they are centered (my parents and some of my immediate family have some work to do in this regard, but they're getting better).

That's the best reason to teach where I teach, to do the work I do, to make the chump change I make, to do the writing that noone reads (that noone reads yet, I can only hope) and to care about a lot of stuff that most people either don't care about or take for granted, generally.

Because it keeps me honest.

As much as I actually like most people and pop culture and pop music and keep up with popular trends as much as the next person, I'd rather be honest, and know my shit stinks just like everyone else, than I would be close to all that money and power and mass appeal any day of the week.

It matters more to me to be myself than it does to get credit or the rewards. Because no credit or rewards that I have ever gotten in my life have been more important than that. One of the advantages of getting a lot of both early on in life, I suppose. But mostly just a function of caring more about me than about how people think about me. And knowing that the latter is a sad and lonely way to live.

And knowing that I'll only ever find someone who really loves me for me if I can be myself, more often than not, in their presence. And that I can only love my wife and kids and friends and family, for real, when I love myself enough, for real, that I'm willing to embrace who I am over pretending to be something else for others.

And that is the secret to a happy life. No question about that in my mind, at this point.

Good guys finish last because they keep their focus on doing good, and not on rigging the game in their favor.

But good people finish first in all the things that matter most. And that is why they are the folks from which progress flows.

Love,
Ben

Saturday, December 30, 2006

Pride, terrorism, and democracy

A new political journal I just encountered, tonight, Democracy, has an excellent article detailing a very persuasive case for pride and humiliation as the basis for terrorist movements.

A Matter of Pride

What is really powerful about Bergen and Lind's analysis is that they go beyond a very persuasively argued case made by several scholars that poverty is not the cause of terrorism, as many liberal activists, journalists, and others have claimed to a very persuasive positive case for pride and humiliation being the basis for terrorist movements.

"What motivates someone to join these revolutionaries, terrorists, and murderers, if not economic conditions? In a word, humiliation. Look again at Nazi Germany. While economically weak in between the world wars, what really motivated many to embrace Nazism was that they lost World War I, and the conditions of that loss. Hitler’s goal, supported by much of the German elite and the vast Prussian officer class, was to reverse the verdict of World War I and proceed to create a Eurasian empire capable of dominating the world.

No concessions by the Western democracies short of acquiescence in National Socialist imperialism would have satisfied Hitler and like-minded Germans. Indeed, the outcome of World War I enraged Arab nationalists as well as German nationalists–and it still does today. Bin Laden sees the Sykes-Picot Agreement, which led to the carving up of the Ottoman Empire, as the beginning of Arab humiliation. For bin Laden, the Sykes-Picot Agreement, like the Versailles agreement for Hitler, is a humiliation that must be avenged and reversed: "We still suffer from the injuries inflicted by … the Sykes-Picot Agreement between Britain and France which divided the Muslim world into fragments," he said.

The central role of communal humiliation in inspiring terrorism is the key finding of University of Chicago political scientist Robert Pape’s study of suicide bombers, Dying to Win. According to Pape, two factors have linked Tamil, Palestinian, Chechen, and al Qaeda suicide bombers. First, they are members of communities that feel humiliated by genuine or perceived occupation (like the perceived occupation of the sacred territory of Saudi Arabia by virtue of the presence of U.S. bases, in the eyes of bin Laden and his allies). Second, suicide bombers seek to change the policies of democratic occupying powers like Israel and the United States by influencing their public opinion–in a sense making the occupying power suffer the same level of humiliation they have felt.

The "humiliation theory" of radical violence helps explain why so many terrorists come from middle-class or wealthy backgrounds. Unlike economic deprivation, national or religious humiliation can be painful to all members of a community. In fact, communal humiliation is likely to aggrieve the affluent members the most, precisely because their freedom from a day-to-day struggle to survive liberates them to brood over slights to the community in which they are natural leaders. It may also explain why so many are willing to sacrifice innocent bystanders for their cause. They are fighting for an abstract idea of national, ethnic, or religious pride, not the masses.

To be sure, humiliation can be an outgrowth of poverty. New York Times columnist Thomas Friedman has suggested a variant of the deprivation theory, citing the sense of personal and collective humiliation associated with poverty: "Sure, poverty doesn’t cause terrorism–no one is killing for a raise. But poverty is great for the terrorism business because poverty creates humiliation and stifled aspirations and forces many people to leave their traditional farms to join the alienated urban poor in the cities–all conditions that spawn terrorists." This has the merit of making humiliation a possible intermediary between poverty and political violence. But the possibility of a connection between poverty and humiliation nevertheless fails to provide a sufficient cause. A 2002 UN study of the Arab world showed that it has the second-lowest per capita growth of any region worldwide, which seems to support the deprivation thesis. But consider that while sub-Saharan Africa has done even worse economically, and while it has been the location of major terrorist attacks (the bombing of the U.S. Embassy in Kenya by al Qaeda, for example) and is the home of 160 million Muslims, the region has not given birth to either an indigenous terrorist group or a radical ideology. To be sure, impoverished Sudan briefly served as a base for al Qaeda’s (overwhelmingly affluent) Saudi and Egyptian leadership. But it was never more than that. It will always be the case that well-organized, well-funded, and well-educated terrorists will make use of failed states, but those states are rarely if ever the source of terrorism. As historian Walter Laqueur has noted, "In the forty-nine countries currently designated by the United Nations as the least developed hardly any terrorist activity occurs." And in the same way that poverty is never the primary cause of terrorism, prosperity is hardly the cure. Alexis de Tocqueville was only the first of many to recognize that revolutions often occur in times when populations experience rising expectations about living standards. At least in some societies, the diffusion of wealth and education may help radicals recruit new allies."

The amount of education and the generally affluent backgrounds of many if not most terrorist leaders makes poverty a fairly unpersuasive cause of terrorism, even as poverty may be among many hardships experienced by populations that support and rationalize terrorism, and Bergen and Lind make a powerful argument in this vein.

But what is particularly powerful about these authors' analysis is their argument that pride and humiliation from military, economic, political, and/or ideological defeat or failure is rationalized as a basis for violence and political conflict. It's a very powerful analysis because it explains well left and right wing terorrism and political violence (and I would add much political and ideological conflict, as well), and, strangely enough for an author like Michael Lind who has described himself as a "radical centrist," their recommendations are "anti-radical" as much as anti-terrorist.

"Regardless of where they stand on this debate, it is clear to most that no conceivable concessions, short of acquiescence to their scheme of expunging Western influence from the Muslim world and bringing Taliban-like regimes to power throughout it, can appease bin Laden, his followers, and his allies. Moreover, "Marshall Plans" for the Middle East, however justified they may be on other grounds, will not make al Qaeda and its sympathizers feel less humiliated. For instance, as a result of the 1978 Camp David peace accords the United States has transferred tens of billions of dollars to Egypt. This transfer of aid coincided with the worst period of terrorism in Egypt’s history; Islamist terrorists assassinated President Anwar Sadat in 1981 and killed more than 1,000 other Egyptians during the 1990s.

The first priority, therefore, of an anti-radical strategy must be defending the people, territories, and interests of the United States and other targeted regimes against terrorist attacks. Passive defenses to keep terrorists out are important, along with active security measures. Israel has successfully reduced the infiltration of suicide bombers by means of its security fence, and Saudi Arabia is building a fence of its own to prevent terrorists from crossing into and out of Iraq. While making it more difficult for terrorists to inflict damage, the United States must work with other nations, including unsavory ones, to apprehend jihadists if possible and kill them if necessary. The military has a role to play in some circumstances, but this is primarily a task for international police and intelligence collaboration. Disrupting clandestine cells and networks is particularly important, because of the role of peer-group socialization in the making of jihadists.

While bin Laden and his allies must simply be defeated, their appeal to potential new recruits can be limited by policies that reduce feelings of collective humiliation in the Arab and Muslim worlds. According to a recent National Intelligence Estimate, the American occupation of Iraq is now inspiring jihadists in the way that the Israeli occupation of the Palestinian territories, Russian control of Chechnya, and Indian rule over Kashmiri Muslims long have done. Ending the humiliating occupation of Muslim populations by non-Muslim nations will remove some of the major grievances that jihadists use as a recruiting tool. Conversely, to perpetuate these deeply resented occupations in the name of fighting "Islamofascism" will only help the jihadists.

In addition, major Muslim nations that are sources of jihadist recruits must change too. Along with fighting non-Muslim occupiers, al Qaeda seeks to topple governments in Muslim countries like Saudi Arabia, Egypt, and Pakistan. Al Qaeda draws many of its recruits from closed societies that are intolerant of dissent; it is no coincidence that Saudis and Egyptians play such a key role in al Qaeda. If there were more open societies in the Muslim world, there might be more political space for Islamists who reject terrorism when out of power and who, if they gained power, would abide by the norms of the international system. This would likely reduce the appeal of al Qaeda as an alternative to conventional political participation.

Reducing poverty in the Middle East and around the world is a laudable goal in itself, for humanitarian reasons. But it would be a mistake to treat prosperity as a universal solvent that can deprive jihadists like bin Laden of allies and sympathizers in populations that feel humiliated by foreign domination or frozen out of politics. Ultimately, both foreign occupation and domestic autocracy are political problems that must find political, not economic, solutions. The campaign against jihadism and the campaign against global poverty are both justified. But they are not the same war."

A commenter calling himself "romat" on the website version of this article makes a strong counter-argument that perceived political impotence is a better explanation. As s/he argues:

"To the kind of terrorism to which your are speaking, terrorist actions against civilians, or mass terror, these are manifestly acts of felt *political* impotence born of desperation. You can talk all you want about how those feelings come about, and I'll agree that poverty is not typically or ever one of them (unless you classify the poor storming food storage depots as terrorism).

The underlying belief - really, strategy - of these sorts of terrorists - Al Qu'eda being a good example - is that terrorist action will act as a spark to mass uprising against the declared enemy by the indirect vehicle of eliciting state repression, since the latter invariably follows in response to terrorist action. A good, simple example worth studying toward understanding this kind of political thinking was right here in the U.S. a few decades ago, the Weatherman faction of SDS, and they certainly weren't political reactionaries, or particularly humiliated.

In the circumstances of Iraq, this script of impotence has morphed in some cases from the actions of an isolated band of Islamic warriors into a strategy of guerilla war (much different than the IRA and Zionists before them?). There's nothing like turning a large group, such as the Sunni population, in particular the army, police, civil servants and many professionals, into enemies. Nonetheless, who is going to deny that the Sunnis haven't and aren't still feeling impotent in the face of U.S. Occupation policy, including the setup of the Iraqi puppet government?"

And in many especially more autocratic situations, this perception may be matched by substantial enough reality to make terrorism more likely than in more democratic countries where more open, democratic institutions create more real opportunities for democratic engagmement and less feeling of impotence.

The pride/humiliation theory explains, better, why anti-democratic groups that have little proclaimed interest in more open, democratic institutions except as they facilitate their pursuit of their narrower ideological ends engage in terrorism, political violence, and political bullying to achieve their ends, even when more open, democratic institutions are available, as with left and right wing terrorism in the more mature democracies like the United States and Europe.

In both more autocratic and more democratic countries, plenty of democratically-committed activists help to build and expand more democratizing institutions, while terrorist and radical counterparts manipulate and undermine those same institutions. I would add that mainstream groups too often legitamize radical and terrorist action in both autocratic and democratic nations by using their threats of violence and bullying to, they believe, strengthen their hand in leveraging preferred political action.

What is powerful about the pride/humiliation theory is that it accounts for anti-democratic and quasi-democratic groups, many if not most of which rationalize authoritarian and autocratic methods and governing philosophies, as well as ideologies with poor ideas and ideologies hostile to democratic engagement, especially thoughtful intellectual debate and discussion, using terrorism, political violence, and political bullying to avoid ideological, intellectual, and democratic engagment in an open and free marketplace of ideas, with best ideas prevailing.

Terrorists and autocratic ideologues -- including state-ruling ideologues like Mahmoud Ahmadinejad and Kim Jong-Il -- do use the more repressive reactions by democratic and autocratic governments to rally support for their causes, as the commenter suggests. But they do not do so out of any genuine respect for democratic ideas and institutions that they simply lack access to and power in engaging, as a "political impotence" or "deprivation" theory might suggest. They do so, generally, out of disrespect for both those institutions and the democratic ideas that nurture them, both in mature democratic societies and in more autocratic societies.

Groups like the Weathermen and Hamas do not simply act out of a sense of impotence in the face of autocratic measures by governments. Hamas, for instance, has not, in the least, given up its terrorist ideology with control of the Palestinian government, nor have they, at all, engaged the more fundamentally democratically peace process with the more democratically mature Israeli government. The Weatherman acted in America, the oldest and most democratically mature democracy in the world, in the 1960's and 70's, with some of the most open and democratic institutions in the world and in the history of democracy, even given an American government and society that was far less open and democratic than the America of the early 21st century. Radical left groups and leaders established political magazines and journals, worked and were active in American universities, found audiences on national and local television programs, and even found allies in and/or were elected to democratic office.

What Hamas and the Weatherman, as just two examples, had in common was that they had poor ideas and violent, anti-democratic ideologies. And the failure of those ideas and ideologies as either governing philosophies and in the larger marketplace of ideas (Hamas won electoral support from Palestinians in the most recent elections, but it hardly has secured support from the international community or marketplace of ideas and is unlikely, I believe, to hold onto national support in Palestine, especially given a taste of the failure and incompetence of their governance).

Lind and Bergen's pride/humiliation thesis better explains why groups and individuals with poor ideas or groups or individuals with even good ideas that they are uncertain and afraid will experience more sustained, popular support -- meaning their fears and insecurities about their ideas lead their efforts more than the strength of their ideas, which are the more sustainable path to the growth of democratic ideas and institutions and progress on issues that socieites face -- pursue more violent, aggressive, and forceful strategies is because they lack faith and confidence in their ideas and lead with force out of fear and insecurity in those ideas rather than confidence in their efficacy, whether those ideas are strong or weak.

Al Queda is hardly concerned with the efficacy of a more theocratic Islamic governing philosophy. They want no debate on the issue, at all, because they fear the fate of a more theocratic Islamic ideology and lack faith and confidence in the rigor of an engaged, intellectual marketplace of ideas. Islamist, leftist, fascist, Nazi, and other terrorist groups may feature intellectuals in their movements and engage intellectually, but it is generally engagement that lacks a genuine respect for either the democratic institutions or the process of intellectual engagement which assumes humility and a need to engage those who disagree with them because they might be wrong. Generally, these ideoligies do not even consider that they might be wrong. Pride, not genuine intellectual engagement about complex issues, features in their thinking about their efforts, and makes more genuine intellectual engagement difficult, though not impossible, to engage, as peace processes in Northern Ireland, Spain, and around the world illustrate.

Desperation and feelings of political impotence are often a cover for intellectual and political arrogance in the face of such engagement. The intellectual humility needed for mature democratic engagement necessitates democratic engagement and a respect for democratic institutions and dialogue to create the safety and genuine security - political, material, personal, and even emotional security - needed for honest debate and discussion to take place. Many groups persistently take that security for granted and often undermine it by alligning themselves with groups and engaging in, themselves, political violence and bullying. But that security is necessary for more genuine democratic and intellectually honest engagement to take place.

Terrorism in more autocratic societies and nation-states is more likely to be explained, in part, by political impotence and desperation. And genuinely democratic revolution and rebellion in the face of autocracy - meaning military or political action genuinely meant to remove repressive government and establish democratic institutions rather than topple either autocratic or democratic institutions for more autocratic or repressive ends - is certainly distinct from terrorism which does not share those ends or which destroys or undermines democratic institutions in the name of other ends.

Bergen and Lind do a brilliant job of arguing for the need to, as they say, "reduce feelings of collective humiliation" and use four examples, American occupation of Iraq, Israeli occupation of Palestine, Russian occupation of Chechnya, and Indian occupation of Kashmir to illustrate areas where respect for legitimate claims of self-determination, a fairly important and established democratic principle, by local Muslim populations, would much more powerfully account for the concerns of people living in those areas than military force or political imposition.

In each of these areas (as is also true of every democratic and autocratic society in the world) there are plenty of legitimate concerns about poverty, political impotence and lack of access, and other rationalizations for terrorism and political violence. But what each of these cases also have in common is political groups without explicit or necessarily implicit democratic commitments that use violence in lieu of democratic engagement with established or functioning democratic institutions as an explicit strategy of effecting their ends, democratic institutions and norms be damned.

The bottom line for most if not all terrorist groups, by definition - meaning distinct from groups with more explicit democratic commitments and which engage democratic institutions with respect for those institutions and democratic norms - is they generally favor their ends completely independent of political access and power, except when they are convinced that they can successfully threaten or impose their will on populations, in lieu of persuading them.

Pride, or lack of democratic humility, is a much better explanation for the behavior of such groups than political impotence or poverty, even as these explanations might also explain the behavior of such groups in more autocratic countries or support for these groups when poverty is used as a rationalization or rallying theme or ideological underpinning.

Bergen and Lind's argument is a powerful and valuable argument in the on-going debate and discussion about constructively and effectively addressing the problem of terrorism in the international community and within sovereign nations. And, very powerfully, it undermines excuses and rationalizations for terrorism and political violence by too sympathetic observers and advocates.

Pride is not an ignoble motivation for terrorists groups, alone. Political parties, activist groups, journalists, commentators, scholars, and citizens, all of us, engage politics too proudly, too self-righteously and with too little willingness to acknowledge that we might be wrong about either means or ends, which is the reason that democratic and intellectually honest discussion and debate are the most ideal forms of democratic engagement. They have serious consequences on the quality of our democratic debates, discussions, elections, policies, ideas and the credibility of democratic institutions, generally.

But an important distinction must be made between those who engage with respect for democratic institutions and norms, intellectual honesty and engagement, and a general respect for the marketplace of ideas and those who seek to circumvent and manipulate those institutions and lack faith, trust, confidence, and respect for those institutions, norms, discussion, and ideas, especially those who use violence to challenge and undermine those institutions rather than challenging them and reforming them respecting democratic norms and means. And even in more repressive societies and with more autocratic states, a distinction must be made between those who engage in political activity, even violent activity, with explicit democratic commitments and respect for or a commitment to establishing democratic institutions and norms and those who lack respect for democratic institutions and norms and/or see democratic institutions as irrelevant or as a means to an ideological end.

There is an assumption behind my analysis that is important to question: that good ideas take root, especially in a more open and democratic marketplace of ideas. A corollary to that assumption is that good ideas are the more ultimate judgment on policies, governing, issues, culture, and power than power alone and who captures it. It's a legitimate and important question. But they are both ideas that history bears out both in real institutions - ideas like democracy will out because they are better ideas and form stronger governments and societies and ideas like autocracy fail because they are failed and worse ideas and form weaker governments and societies - and in form and process - historians center their judgments (rather than homogenously settling on any one final judgment or idea) around better ideas of the form, substance, consequences, etc. of better institutions, cultural trends, resolution of important issues, choices and thinking of democratic actors, etc.

Historians, scholars, and other democratic thinkers center their judgments around ideas and institutions that they believe better support the values that support the long-term growth of the culture, as much as match their more narrow biases. And it is that long term democratic marketplace of ideas that animates the judgments and outlooks of future generations. Better ideas always win out, long-term, independent of the immediate political and historical moment, by definition, because it is that democratic marketplace of ideas that reflects the ideas and values that a culture deems valuable enough to pass on to future generations.

Political violence and bullying neither respects stronger democratic institutions, norms, ideas, and judgments, nor is is able to overwhelm those stronger democratic institutions, norms, ideas, and judgments because those norms, ideas, and judgments are the more final verdict on the efforts of groups who engage in political violence and bullying and because they support stronger cultures and governments capable of stronger, more thoughtful, and more effective ideas, institutions, and action than their anti-democratic or democratically ambivalent counterparts.

As Stephen Ambrose wrote in his counterfactual assessment of the Normandy Invasion, there was very little question that the democratic Allies would defeat Hitler's Nazi regime, the real question was how long it would take and how many people would die in the process. The democratic allies, both by virtue of being democratic and their stronger, more thoughtful, more resource-rich capacities, their military victory and more sustainable cultures and political institutions, and by the clear judgment of history, were stronger than the Nazi regime. But even had they lost critical military victories and/or been overwhelmed by the force of the Nazi regime, as John Keegan and others have postulated, it is highly unlikely that democratic citizens of Allied countries would have somehow permanently submitted to a Nazi victory or even Communist imposition had the Soviets won a hot war in the race to Berlin or in its aftermath.

There was and would be a clear democratic consensus that Naziism, Communism, or any other anti-democratic philosophy did not support the growth of their peoples and cultures, just as citizens of Nazi Germany and the Soviet Union eventually concluded, because as an objective fact of history they did not. And democracy and a democratic marketplace of ideas did and do support their cultures and peoples better. Power can only ignore realities of life and history for so long before those realities catch up with their power. It is both a democratic marketplace of historical reflection that renders and would, in the case of a Nazi or Soviet victory, render that judgment. And that is the clearest possible judgment that history has to render on undemocratic institutions or less then fully democratic institutions, governments, or cultures.

And, similarly, terrorists and groups that engage in political violence and bullying cannot will out over democratic societies and governments, especially the more consistently they apply democratic principles like self-determination, intelligent and constructive engagement, distinctions between different terrorist groups and possibilities for constructively combating and dealing with their threats, military force and law enforcement that is most discriminating, least threatening, and least destructive to civilian populations possible, the most humane and least aggressive means possible of dealing with terrorist threats, and honest and genuinely democratically committed engagement with democratic and non-democratic partners, citizens, and populations.

That is why analyses like Michael Lind's and Peter Bergen's are so critical to developing a more effective response to threats like terrorism. The better we understand who we are dealing with the legitimacy or illegitimacy of their claims, causes, and means, and the consequences of our actions on past, present, and future political and cultural realities, the more effectively we will defend ourselves and the democratic institutions that they are so hostile to.

The logic of power

The fundamental argument for a liberal society is that without a commitment to liberty, fundamentally, all governments and all those with power use every justification/rationalization to have, keep, and use power as they please. Any conceivable argument for good that can be done for others can be used to justify/rationalize power. Power can be rationalized without limits as long as people believe that power and force is responsible for the good choices they make in life. And that will be so as long as people attribute their good choices or better choices by others to power and the ability of others to force their choices.

As long as people believe that, there is no limit to how power can be rationalized.

Hope for humanity lies in our capacity to take credit for the good we do in the world and responsibility for the bad we do in it. And that world will both be created by a society more committed to that kind of responsibility and actualized as we create societies free enough that people more readily take such responsibility.

Love,
Ben

Wednesday, December 27, 2006

Finding peace

Now playing: February, Lovin' You, Iowa, What Do You Hear in These Sounds, After All, When I Was a Boy, The Babysitter, Christians and the Pagans- Dar Williams

I just had this really beautiful dream. And when I woke up, I was so at peace with conflicts I've had with some people. And so at peace with Brandi, in particular.

In the dream, I was teaching and coaching basketball, of all things (I love basketball, but I wouldn't say that I would necessarily be a brilliant basketball strategist).

I was meeting all of these new, strange people. And one girl, in particular, Elizabeth or Katherine or something like that, and I were talking together, a lot.

One day, I was supposed to be getting to a basketball game that I was late for (and my guys were wondering where the hell I was undoubtedly), but I was enamoured with this girl. We were talking and I was so charmed by her. At one point in the dream, I'm asking her questions alluding to why we shouldn't date. And in a vulnerable way, she's giving me answers alluding to all kinds of excuses for why something like that wouldn't work out. And all I wanted to do was hold her. I was falling in love.

And I woke up and all I could think was that when I saw Brandi next, whenever that might be, that I'd just want to give her a hug and tell her that it's alright. That it was sad that we couldn't make our relationship work. It was sadder that she didn't feel like she could make a friendship work, after the fact. But that it's really alright. That I've just missed her. And that we'll both be ok.

There is so much in the world that I can't control. No matter how much I might want to and sometimes need to.

Sometimes it is tragic, as with Brandi's and my break-up (if you've never heard Dar Williams' February, I think it captures the experience pretty well), and our subsequently losing our friendship. But we may still have limited control over some circumstances, especially when they're not in our hands only.

And do our best to love our lives despite the tragedies that life sometimes has to offer. We cannot always prevent them, no matter how much we may try.

Losing that relationship and all of the beauty it held for me was the most serious tragedy in my life, thusfar. My professors and I don't talk anymore. My mother and I don't talk enough, these days. My family and I don't talk enough, generally, these days.

But losing that relationship is the saddest thing that's happened to me in my lifetime. Because my love was so strong, so complete, and as pure a feeling as I've ever had in my life.

And it's ok.

If you ask me, I'll tell you this really beautiful story of two young people in love. It's a great story. And today I can tell it without bitterness or pain on my heart or self-pity. It's a really beautiful, sweet story if anyone ever wants to hear it, some day.

Two kids spent most of their time together, in college, for about a year. Best friends (at least Brandi was my best friend; she always said that her mom was her best friend forever, so I could never crack that category). The girl headed to Washington, D.C. for an internship and they held hands all the way to take the boy to the airport so he could return to Wichita. They talked on the phone all the time while the boy did his pre-student-teaching at Wichita North High School and the girl did an internship with the Atlantic Council in Washington, D.C.

When she returned, they were counselors at a Kansas Regents' Honors' Academy at their college. And they fell in love.

She returned to D.C. He went to grad school at KU in Lawrence. And they spent three amazing months together in Washington, D.C., exploring the big city and experiencing the bigger world around them, together, for the first time. They lived together, they worked together, they walked all over the city, together, and generally spent almost every waking moment together, many days. They saw Cornell West and Reverend Eugene Waters and a million artsy movies at artsy theaters and from artsy video stores that they didn't have in Wichita, Kansas. They talked about race relations and social security and about every political issue under the sun, because they were young idealists out changing the world.

The girl returned to Lawrence to study for her Master's in Public Administration, even though the boy encouraged her to check out more prestigious schools since she had the grades. But she wouldn't have anything of it. She missed him and she wanted to be close to him.

They lived together and studied at the University. He studied for his Master's in gifted education, his Master's in special education, and a Ph.D. in special education policy, which soon became study for something much more than a Ph.D. or special education policy. She studied for her Master's in Public Administration and worked with a great group called Study Circles at the United Way of Wyandotte County bringing parents and community members together to discuss important matters of education policy.

They fought. A lot. Far too much. They were in love. But their passion was perpetually spilling over.

I understand a lot of that fighting better in my old age. A lot of frustrations about different outlooks on the world. The bulk of Brandi's life was in her real world job; the bulk of my life was wrapped up in a very theoretical Ph.D. I was studying a lot; a lot of things for the first time. And Brandi and I would talk about them, all the time. And argue about them, all the time. And it wore on Brandi, I think.

But, you know, it's funny. A lot of people give up on those arguments, I think. It does wear on them, and their relationships and friendships.

But the truth is that, generally, it is our failure to engage those difficult conversations and issues, and the ways that we discourage them, that undermines so many of our relationships and larger efforts, rather than our engaging them too much, I'm pretty clear.

More specifically, it is our failure to listen.

That was my greatest failure in Brandi's and my relationship, I think. Which is ironic, because it is one of my biggest strengths, today.

I didn't listen to Brandi, nearly enough. I was too focussed on "being right." On insisting on my passionate, self-righteous outlooks on the world. And I listened far too little to Brandi during that time. To be fair, she listened to me far too little, as well. But it was too much bickering and not enough listening and appreciating one another's perspectives, I think.

And that is what undermines most of the important things that we want and need in life, I think. We don't listen and appreciate each other well enough. I'm getting better at it. And now and forever I have a long way to go. But it featured so big in the friendship and relationship in my life that was closer than any I had had then or since.

And after two years of living together in Kansas and bickering fairly regularly, the girl broke it off.

It's a really sad and sweet story. The early part, in particular, is very sweet. And there's many more details to that story that would really fill in the sweet. Eating lunch at the park, every day. Finding free snacks at happy hours around town. Visiting DuPont Circle and being around an openly gay community of people for the first time (I had visited the Castro in San Fransisco, but it wasn't quite the same thing as living and working in D.C. and visiting DuPont Circle regularly). Renting porn with a girl for the first time. Long, deep discussions with Brandi's amazing boss and USC professor, Theo Brown. Experiencing everything great that Washington D.C. has to offer.

And it has a sad ending.

And I am making peace, this year, with both that initial sad ending. But, much more importantly, the sad turn that this story recently took, where the boy and the girl, who were best friends in college, don't talk anymore because the girl, who married another boy, decided that she couldn't keep talking.

And the sad thing about the whole mess was that learning to talk and listen to one another better was what kept two friends from staying friends.

I've got to get to bed. Hopefully, I'll have similarly sweet dreams for the rest of the night.

Love,
Ben

Tuesday, December 26, 2006

A brilliant social security retirement solution

Senator Jeff Session (R - Alaska) has just become one of my favorite Senators.

Today, in the December 26, 2006 Washington Post, Jeff advocated a social security solution that is really brilliant, both substantively and politically.

A Bipartisan Fix for Retirees

Jeff's plan would establish personal savings accounts for every child at birth with $1000 invested by the Federal government. It's an idea that has been floated around in wealth equity/poverty circles for quite awhile, now, and Jeff combines it with a lifelong, cradle to grave, social security personal savings plan with small paycheck contributions from both employees and employers over the course of every citizen's lifetime, that can be invested in 1 of 6 investment accounts (building on an already established Thrift Savings Account program for Federal employees) resulting, Jeff thinks, in a retirement nest egg of at least a half a million dollars at retirement.

There are substantive and political problems with Jeff's plan, I think. The first and most important, I think, is a budget problem. Where does $1000 for every newborn child come from? There's plenty of wealth in America to make that happen. The problem, as always with wealth equity issues, is the political will. But unlike many liberal political activists, I have much confidence that the American people might support this kind of bill in spirit, but very little confidence that they will want to pay the tax bill along with the tax bill for a million other programs in an already bloated Federal budget.

The problem and resolution around almost every wealth equity issue is peoples' willingness to give. If they are willing to give through this or any other Federal program, I say so be it. But many, many people and businesses and lobbying organizations generally fight and resist and kick and scream and complain and yell bloody murder whenever new spending is proposed. And at a time when the Federal budget is out of control, it makes sense that people would be skeptical of new spending until it is clear that the current spending commitments are covered.

It's the very sad consequence of so many groups demanding that their cause get funded now, that a very worthy cause like fixing Social Security gets lost in the shuffle of Washington pressure politics.

The substantive problem, I think, is that while some kind of retirement nest egg will be created and mandated for every American, it still doesn't resolve the responsibility issues that are involved, with every American needing to take more seriously their long term financial needs. I'm definitely guilty, here. I've thought about retirement, but, overwhelmed with work responsibilities, I've done almost nothing about it, as of yet. That will be changing, soon, as I organize my financial affairs this Christmas vacation. But it's a serious responsibility that needs, long-term, to be taken seriously by every citizen, so that savings and money earned in accounts is not frittered away. A half a million dollars can go quickly if retirees are not serious about being responsible for their limited resources rather than too enthusiastic about their newfound wealth. And no federal program can mandate that kind of responsibility.

But that substantive problem illustrates the really remarkable strength of Jeff Sessions' proposal here. There is no way for any government to guarantee responsibility by citizens for their financial welfare. And the bare minimum protections of the current Social Security guarantees are so small that they leave far too many older citizens, in a nation with this much wealth, among the lower middle class, the poor, or worse, wards of the state, as state governments require the elderly citizens sell off assets and enter nursing homes before medications and services will be provided, among other fates.

Once legislators and citizens come to terms with that limitation of federal involvement to promote the kind of responsibility that we need long-term and with the really remarkable amount of wealth in the United States that could potentially stem the problem of elderly poverty, it only makes sense to adopt some kind of proposal, public or private, that provides this kind of modest but substantial nest egg for seniors. The private for-profit or non-profit market could help provide for this kind of proposal and there has been much talk in philanthropic circles about just that (at least the $1000 at birth proposal) for some time now. Philanthropies could pool resources and ask for investments and contributions that could guarantee this kind of idea without generating the kind of conflict and resistance that typically follows efforts to raise taxes to fund such efforts.

Or Congress could take the path of shrinking the Federal budget to levels within their means and to find money through cuts in other programs. Or they could roll the dice and ask for a tax increase. If any proposal might get a tax increase, it is a plan to resolve Social Security woes with personal savings accounts, that would likely be more popular with the very people being asked to fund them.

The tax increase, itself, still has consequences for GDP increasingly absorbed by government largesse and the subequent government spending and borrowing crowding out private spending and borrowing, which is much more likely, long-term, to grow the economy (the goose that lays the golden egg, and all that).

But potential to resolve some of the more serious woes of the Social Security system and its woes is pretty hard to pass up.

Ideally, I would prefer for such an idea to be coordinated and funded through the private and non-profit sector, where it would have the huge long-term advantage of a more flexible and responsive system that could make adjustments in the proposal as problems are identified and opportunities are recognized. A private system would also have much more opportunity for a market of non-profit giving and investment by beneficiaries, where all parties would have far more choices and could engage much more thoughtfully and responsibly in making wise choices for contributing and investing money made available. Money contributed to such a proposal beyond that needed for individual accounts could be pooled and invested by philanthropic funds or for-profit investment firms to create a self-generating fund that would not need to ask for future tax increases or government spending each year, for instance. The Grameen Bank in Bangladesh, FINCA in Latin America, and many other microenterprise lending models throughout the world operate under just such a self-sustaining, self-generating model of poverty alleviation and wealth equity generation. A more successful model of wealth equity could be initiated and sustained around the basic proposal like Jeff's nurtured in the private and non-profit communities and grown to tackle a whole host of wealth equity issues, very much like how philanthropic and non-profit groups, themselves, grow to tackle many issues well beyond their original charters.

And private and non-profit system modeled after Grameen and other self-generating, self-sustaining wealth equity proposals would have the other benefit that Grameen offers: offering a road out of poverty and to fuller participation in the global economy with support from non-profit and for-profit financial planners to help individuals become more responsible for their financial futures. Supporting retirees in becoming aware and taking serious long-term financial planning is a valuable service that could be better provided by private and non-profit sector financial planners, I think, who are not bound by the bureaucratic, inflexible, red-tape suffocation of Federal, state, or other government efforts.

I think that would be a better idea that funding such an effort through Congress. But the two are not mutually exclusive, necessarily, given the vast wealth in America. And I very much applaud Jeff Sessions' efforts to tackle this very difficult problem, politically and substantively, head-on with intelligent proposals that much better account for workings of the market than far too many proposals for government programs and spending.

Thanks to Jeff for putting together a proposal meant to circumvent the substantive and political problems with efforts to improve Social Security and to resolve its most serious issues.

May that kind of intelligent bipartisanship lead this next session of Congress and Washington politics.

Love,
Ben

Sunday, December 24, 2006

The way of the future in public education

A review of a brilliant effort by an excellent math teacher at a KIPP academy charter school in Washington D.C.

New Teacher Jolts KIPP

So many limitations that we face at Eisenhower to create these results. Limitations that we are overcoming, slowly, but limitations nonetheless.

The largest and most tragic limitations are the legal and political limitations.

So many of the kids I face, ideally, should not be in special education. Like Lisa Suben's students, these kids should be in regular education math, reading, social studies, and science classrooms with teachers who are committed to their success and unsatisfied until they achieve it.

My kids end up in special education, largely, because so many general education teachers refuse or don't know how to do what Lisa Suben is doing: remediating problems with basic skills from lower level curriculum, covering the curriculum with enthusiasm and an expectation of success, engaging students regularly and with higher level thinking skills, and expecting students to think at the highest levels.

And, sadly, the paperwork requirements of special education put limitations on time and energy by teachers like me who are committed to these higher standards and levels of achievement. This is not an excuse. It is just a reality of the world of special education.

We are making progress in my special education math class. But it is far slower than if we had teachers like Lisa Suben doing the kind of work that I do in my special education math class (and far better than me) in general education classes.

I am curious to see how that model sustains itself with teachers raising families and with teachers and students who do not make explicit choices to attend a KIPP school, as Lisa's students did, but I very much believe that having many more schools like KIPP available and more often the norm will change the dynamic of teacher and student commitment to their work substantially, over time.

Teachers will fight this. Even good ones, who are stubbornly committed to models that emphasize district, state, and Federal compliance, mandates, and bureaucracy. And which keep teacher unions in business. And expect far too much in terms of meaningless bureaucracy and expect far too little of schools and teachers, generally, in terms of results.

It is clear that it will take a long time to make Lisa's experience more the norm. But it is clear to me that it is possible when teachers are freed up to do exactly the kinds of things that Lisa has done to produce results rather than lose precious time and energy complying with regulations in general and special education which have very little to do with achievement and much to do with justifying labels, attitudes, and elaborate intellectual rationalizations for why teachers do not expect success from students.

A rising tide of achievement of folks like Lisa and her students could raise a lot of ships, if we would let it. But it will mean letting go of the excuses and the political and legal squeeze on teachers to comply rather than to achieve when student achievement lags and when kids and teachers are not doing what we want them to do.

We can change this. But it will meaning coming to terms with the failure of the current approach. Even Lisa's amazing performance did not meet the impossible mandated standards of the No Child Left Behind Act, which is a failed effort to improve student performance and which, even in Lisa's case, is clearly a significant barrier to student and school achievement.

Money for schools is great, but it can come from other more private sources, as it does in the KIPP case. The choice provisions of the law could be expanded, but ultimately local district politics must welcome choice and a more open education market in a way that no Federal law can ever mandate.

Support for school choice must be created from the ground up in school districts, rather than imposed from above, where it entrenches and produces resentment and resistance that will become hardened down the road without support generated at the ground level. Political history is plentiful with examples of good ideas, like school choice, being imposed from above and producing resistance and resentment, no matter how strong the idea may be. And certainly the results from mandated efforts like IDEA (the Individuals with Disabilities Act) and the No Child Left Behind Act do not show promising results in terms of welcome embrace and fulfillment of legal obligations by schools facing those acts, since those obligations, more often than not, conflict with much more basic commitments to teaching and learning.

Milton Friedman's commitment to education as the centerpiece of the Rose and Milton Friedman foundation is no accident. Education is the field in America that is most in need of market reforms and more freedom, generally, to cure its ills and it is a fundamental need by a liberal democracy to fulfill its values and commitments to freedom, equity, and democratic self-governance.

Lisa Suben's performance should rightly be a shining example to everyone in public and private education of what is possible with kids when teachers believe they can perform and when kids choose to be with teachers who believe in them and expect much of them.

And efforts like Lisa's and the KIPP school she teaches with are only possible with the freedom to excel without the legal and political double-binds that afflict public schools today. As those double-binds are removed, we should not be under the illusion that all teachers and schools will perform as strongly as Lisa. But our efforts will be stronger as schools and teachers and students have the excuses and limitations for their performance removed from their forward momentum.

The poorest performers in schools and in life will only find dignity when they are held to the standard of the best performers, and when they finally learn to hold themselves to that same standard. There is much discussion and debate that will be necessary about what they will look like, given the needs of parents and children to live lives together without achievement as their only or even primary priority. But the only real dignity available to children and adults is one where we support and expect the best from and for all children and adults.

Thanks to Lisa and KIPP for showing us the way.

Love,
Ben

Saturday, December 23, 2006

Liberal democracy, humane treatment, and learning to embrace our freedom

There are a million ironies to force and harsh treatment as an attempt to produce progress.

A just cause, like the American civil rights movement or the Indian independence movement, should give us pause that any society knows best always what and how to punish appropriately.
And the contradictions of our most powerful modern day social movement being in peaceful nonresistantance and civil disobedience to the law and the current fetish with power and force and layers of law to solve problems should give thinking people pause, though many very smart people have ignored those lessons.

The failures of alcohol and drug prohibition should give us serious pause, given the correlation between alcohol and drug prohibition and the murder rates in the United States, though they too often do not, tragically.

The wrong-headed and failed efforts to enforce sexual morality through prohibitions on pornography, adultery and homosexuality should give us pause, though they too often do not.

There are a million ironies to harsh treatment.

But the single most serious irony, I think, is that all lessons, no matter how serious or minor, are only learned when people understand the lesson and not a moment earlier. If they understood the lesson, it would already be learned. And punishment does not learn lessons for people. At best, it can serve as a warning, that always eventually wears off, no matter how serious the crime or deed. And it can protect people from someone who is likely to engage in something that it physically dangerous to others until they take responsibility for their behavior.

But punishment cannot learn a lesson for anyone.

Learning and understanding, are, ultimately, the only and most sustainable means of changing behavior. And learning and understanding necessitate mistakes. Meaning, to internalize a lesson, rather than just being afraid but not really knowing anything, we often (though not always; we don't need people committing murder to learn the lesson that murder is wrong) need to screw it up.

And we only learn a lesson when we learn it. It takes time to figure it out. And we only learn it when we finally internalize it. And internalizing it can't happen a moment sooner than it does.

And no amount of harsh treatment, no matter how harsh or how light, can learn a lesson quicker than it takes for us to learn it.

Sometimes, people may attribute their learning the lesson to the harsh treatment. And sometimes harsh treatment can signal us that something is wrong. If I kill your mother when your rent is late, you'll probably figure out to get rent to me on time. But that doesn't mean that killing your mother taught you a lesson. You're afraid of me and so you do what I want because you're afraid of who I will kill next. And fear isn't internalizing the lesson, which explains why a lot of people do bad things when they're fear eventually wears off.

We can only genuinely choose to be a good person of our own free will when we internalize the need to choose it. Otherwise, we are being good out of fear. Which means we have not internalized the lesson at all. And which makes us seriously vulnerable to manipulation by others, especially when they are doing bad things in the name of doing good. That would explain why a lot of people support dictators and autocrats and authoritarian leaders and other ugly figures and why free people are less likely to do so. Because many if not most people are seriously vulnerable to manipulation because they are always looking to others, rather than to their own consciences and independent judgment, for whether they are doing good or not. That is how Naziism dominated Nazi Germany. That is how Communism dominated the Soviet Union and China and Cuba and North Korea. That is how Fascism dominated in Italy. That is how Islamic theocracy dominates in much of the Middle East and the Muslim world. That is how dictatorships all over the world maintain their power.

But liberal democracy offers people the freedom to remove themselves from those social, religious, political, and legal pressures to become authentically free. Often, as in America and the West, despite those social, religious, political, and legal pressures. Often despite the political and legal systems altogether.

Liberal democracy is, at its heart, a cultural and social and political attitude and thought process, much more than a set of institutions. Institutions are valuable, especially in teaching and offering space to learn and elaborate on liberal democratic values. Educational institutions - below college grade and at the university level - are among the most important institutions in the society, as a consequence (after and co-joint with family) I am convinced, as important as other institutions like the institutions of government, of criminal justice, of the military, the free press, libraries, film, music, literary institutions, business and industry. But education holds a very special place, in both schools and in the family, in guaranteeing (and, sadly, too often, undermining) the strongest values of a liberal democratic society.

And the clear trend, for good reason - because it reflects our commitment to our highest humanity -- is towards more decency and less harsh treatment. And the reason why that is so important is because more decency and less harshness, in our interpersonal relationships with our children and our parents, our students and our teachers, our family members and loved ones, our employees and our employers, our partners, our customers, and those we do business with, our political and legal opponents, our judicial and political and military authorities, our police and civil servants, and even our military enemies, except when force and aggression are necessary and then the least necessary aggression and force should be used as much as possible (overwhelming force, in the form of military force, is often, but not always necessary, and it shouldn't be rationalized, as too often is, in the name of victory except when no other options exist), but also in our more general political, business, and legal dealings, is critical to developing an authentic liberal democracy of self-governing citizens because the freedom is critical to supporting the growth of self-governing and responsible adults who are genuinely committed to liberal democratic values and to the growth of the culture, to their own growth, and to doing good in the most proactive and responsible ways.

Freedom is the basis by which that kind of liberal democratic culture grows and is maintained. And our highest values are more genuinely actualized, as are individuals more genuinely self-actualized, the more freedom is offered and assumed by liberal democratic citizens to more genuinely commit themselves to doing good.

The larger problem in liberal democratic societies since their inception as thinkers like Milton Friedman have alluded to, is that liberal democratic cultures lack confidence in their liberal nature. Liberal cultures embrace freedom, on the one hand, but are perpetually plagued with handwringing about how much freedom is too much as they face difficulties and insecurities about the future. They do not appreciate, well enough, how the very freedom that they are afraid of is exactly what distinguishes their rich, developed, and stronger cultures from weaker, more insecure and more repressive societies that resist liberal values.

When faced with the choice between looking more like the societies that terrorists and Jihadists fantasize and create when they have power, as in Palestine and Afghanistan, or more free and democratic, liberal societies in the last 6 years as with other regressive periods in their history, have chosen more repression and force as a mutually-exclusive substitute for more freedom and liberality. And that choice, as with the choice of Hamas in Palestine and Ahmadinejad in Iran, is borne of a deep insecurity and fear by liberalizing, democratic societies, that their expanding freedom, rather than their older more entrenched repression is responsible for so many of their societies' ills. It is a mistake that liberal democratic societies can see clearly in the choice of Hamas and Ahmadinejad, but they are blind to in their own governments and cultures. And it is a mistake with serious and tragic consequences.

Why liberal societies that spent the entire 20th century fending off challenges from more authoritarian, autocratic, and totalitarian societies and successfully persuaded many of those societies, the Soviet Union, in particular, to adopt more liberal, democratic ways would turn to the very governing philosophy of force which was the central features of those governments and societies they challenged and fought for a century is one of the more serious puzzles and tragedies of the early 21st century, I think. It is a reality borne of that insecurity, I believe. And it is a choice that will only change as these more mature liberal democracies face the failure of force to deliver what only freedom, equity, and democratic self-governance can.

Why everyone should take policy discussions more seriously

I think I'm beginning to understand, better, the rationalizations that make up the self-fulfilling prophecy of cyncism.

When a cynic's efforts don't work out, they just give up. They give up on others. They give up on themselves. They give up on an effort. They just give up. Same goes for all of us who get cynical, in the moment, or reason cynically, when we do.

And so when an important goal - a personal goal, a social goal, a political goal - doesn't turn out, the cynic just says, "Well, it couldn't have worked out."

The tough part of policy work and social scientific work is that sometimes things really can't work out. It's not cynicism. It's reality. And distinguishing between a less changeable reality and a more changeable reality for which we have just become cynical is really difficult work. It is the essence of policy work, at some level.

And our failure to make the distinction in so many areas of life is exactly what fucks many things up.

It's complicated, I realize. But knowing the difference between a reality that can be changed and a reality that can't be changed is one of the most important skills and bits of wisdom that people can have, I think.

Hence, why I think everyone, at some level, should take policy discussions - meaning the strongest intellectual discussions of politics - more seriously. Because it is these people who are bearing witness to some of the most profound truthes about humanity and human nature, I think.

Love,
Ben

Christmas Blues

Listening to: The Indigo Girls - Retrospective (why? because it was the album Brandi listened to while she was making plans to leave)

This is the first year I can remember when I have had this kind of Christmas blues.

I've had Christmas blues before, of course. The year my mom left was a rough year. The year Jenny broke up with me, I dealt with some pretty serious post-Christmas blues (she broke up with me New Year's Eve). The year I left grad school was a tough year (I left right before Christmas).

This year has been different.

Maybe it's because I'm just much more aware and in tune when I'm feeling shitty. I don't try to pretend, anymore, that I'm feeling better than I am. Maybe it's because this is the first year Brandi and I are not talking anymore. And her leaving behind our friendship has hurt me more deeply than anything I've experienced in recent memory. I hurt worse when we broke up. But other than that, I can't think of many things that have hurt worse. Jenny and my mom leaving are the other two that really rank up there.

I'm sure it's all of this.

But I do have some serious Christmas blues this year.

I really don't know quite what to make of my life, these days. I'm not sure that my life has much meaning, these days. I'm not convinced that my teaching or my written work or my presence really makes much difference at all in the world, is the truth.

I'm afraid that I've made a serious mistake dedicating so much of my life to helping others when so few people seem like they really want to help or want the help, frankly. I've dedicated myself to high ideals around equitable and inclusive education that so few people really take seriously, honestly. The number of my friends and people in my life who take education really seriously, enough that they pursue it and their own intellectual growth with some enthusiasm or curiosity or seriousness, is very small, really.

I often feel like all of my efforts are wasted. I can't stand the idea of wanting to be with a girl who would want to be with me for money. And yet I am becoming increasingly aware of the more cynical motivations of women in seeking men, and the less my efforts are really seriously needed or appreciated by others, the more I think, "Why the fuck would I keep doing this shit?"

I really don't know why I chose this life, anymore. It's been nothing but hardship and misery for very little reward. I have lots of friends, but I don't have one person in my life who shares any of my more serious commitments with me. I don't have professors or teachers or parents to look up to, anymore, because they're all betting I'm wrong. Or they just don't care one way or another. Or they're all holding out for their right to bully me in one direction or another.

It's very lonely to take intellectual pursuits seriously. Because very few people do. And they're all always just a little tired of hearing you talk about this or that issue.

And I look at the political landscape, right now, and I think, "Why the fuck would I keep doing this?" There's nothing but cynicism and dissatisfaction and pressure and strong-arming out there, for me. "Who would want to keep doing all of this?" I wonder to myself, all the time. My colleagues and I are persistently pondering why we keep teaching, especially in an inner city school where we're being sanctioned for taking on the challenge that so few of the people who advocate for the sanctioning would or have actually taken on themselves.

And I'm not discouraged about just teaching, at this point. I'm discouraged by the whole thing. The teaching. The politics. The making a living in a world full of such cynicism that has absolutely no interest in facing it and taking stock of what a mess they've made of life with their cyncism in their outlooks and choices.

Maybe none of it really does matter.

Maybe I'm holding a flame that noone really wants a piece of.

What I know is that I don't really have anyone to share the idealism and commitment and love and passion for what I do with at my age. People my age have generally given up on all of that childish nonsense. I have been fighting a tide that I just can't fight my entire life. I need others to share it all with. I need a soulmate to share the trials and tribulations as much as the victories and excitement with.

I need to know that my life is something more than just a nice guy finishing last.

Because right now, that's what it is. I'm a nice guy with a big brain and big mouth that I'm not convinced has really made much difference in this world.

And I don't know what to make of my life with that.

I look back on my more unselfconscious idealism of 10, 5 years ago and think, "How naive of you to think that others might share that, or really give much of a shit."

I'm a nice guy from a white trash background and a third-tier university, who couldn't even complete one nevertheless two Master's degrees or a Ph.D. I teach kids that most people pity because they just don't know what else to do with them and I write work that is horribly naive because it lacks the cyncism and recrimination and enthusiasm for the use of force and the exercise of dominance that more tough-minded thinkers need to understand the world more adequately.

And 5 years ago, the person who I've cared about most in my life and my best friend walked out on me and married an insurance and banking man. And she stopped talking to me a couple months ago.

By any objective measure, I'm kind of a loser, who identifies with losers, which is exactly why my life is such a fuckin' mess. Because my whole life is dedicated to making sure that we look after the losers in life and not be so goddamned wrapped up in being and betting on the winners.

And it has condemned me to a life of losing in the name of a lot of folks who I think could give two shits about what I have to offer.

And I'd abandon it all today, if I didn't care so much about it. And what it means about me if I give it up. Even though noone else gives much of a shit, I don't think.

I have a couple of scholarships that require that I either teach special ed for 8 years, 4 years in Kansas, and I'm sure my liberal benefactors are convinced that these and their regulation of my work and the work of my colleagues and all the other ways that they can force my hand are what keep the universe in order. When the truth is that they are the most important reasons that would drive me out of the profession.

There is not much to celebrate about my life, right now. I am a modern day agnostic Job, wondering why the fuck I keep setting myself up for all of this shit.

Faith. And that is waning quickly.

Public service is hardly inspiring in a world where I am told to "Ask not what your country can do for you, but what you're going to fuckin' do for your country whether you fuckin' like it or not."

But there is very little that is very inspiring, these days.

And as long as everyone seems quite content with that, it doesn't look like that's going to change anytime soon.

So that is the life that I get to share with the rest of this miserable, cynical little world.

Merry fuckin' Christmas.

Love,
Ben

Friday, December 22, 2006

Transcending partisan politics (make sure my funeral doesn't look like this)

I just happened by this link, today, for a review of the coverage of the funeral of Coretta Scott King back in February.

Everyone who cares about me: make sure my funeral isn't like this. It was an ugly partisan-fest. I understand why liberals wanted to use the occassion to criticize the President, after years of feeling like the President would not listen to criticism about the war or anything else. I agree with a lot of their concerns even as I have differences about how to address them.

But my major concern reading the coverage of this funeral was seeing just how tragically wrapped-up people get in politics. How it becomes the only or most important lens through which they see people. What a hard time people have just accepting that people have differences with them, that people just look at things in life differently -- with potential for a future reconciliation of views, rather than a foreclosed difference -- instead of assuming that people are in bad faith or trying to be destructive.

The problem is power, I think. When you want to use power to hurt peoples' friends, they tend to get pissed off. Everyone. So people do what they did at this funeral which is take pot shots at one another. Even people associated with a legacy as great as Coretta Scott King's and Martin Luther King's legacy.

One of the best things that has happened to me over the last 5 or 6 years is that I don't look at people through partisan lenses, primarily, anymore. I'm not really a partisan in any meaningful sense, these days. I don't think anyone or any group has all the right answers. And I know every group has plenty of wrong answers.

And what that has meant for my life is that I just have a lot of friends and family that I love, that I agree with much of the time, but that I also disagree with plenty, and with whom our common ground is always more substantial than our disagreements.

The idea that people would kill one another over partisan differences, as happened over much of the 20th century, or that they would kill and threaten revolution, as was supported by far too many liberals and conservatives and their more militant, radical counterparts in the 60's; the idea that people would threaten one another, prosecute and persecute one another, villify and embarrass them in public, insult them in a way that is meant to hurt them rather than enlighten anyone, strong-arm them, force their hands, or otherwise seek to hurt them or threaten them to win a political point is just ugly and certainly not a standard we should aspire to, from my vantage point.

Funerals should be a time to honor someone, their life, and their legacy. Not to tear down someone else.

So many people are filled with so much anger and rage and hate and envy and other destructive impulses towards one another, politically and otherwise.

It's so sad to me. That politics and religion and education and all kinds of high-minded aspirations get used by people to direct their rage and hate and envy at one another.

It's the saddest kind of rationalization, to my mind. To use high-minded pursuits to cloak one's ugliness and destructiveness. We all have nasty impulses. Everyone. No exceptions. And we need an opportunity to vent them or share them openly so that we can accept ourselves for them, despite them.

But so many people waste so much of their lives trying to pretend that they don't operate with such impulses. Or that those impulses are more nobel than they really are. Fearing that others wouldn't accept them or that they couldn't accept themselves if they admitted just how ugly their attitudes had gotten in the name of whatever self-righteous cause.

It is the basis for terrorism, Communism, Naziism, Fascism, authoritarianism, autocracy, genocide, apartheid and all of the worst evils of the history of humanity.

And it exists with more or less power in contemporary democracies and will continue to have much power as long as democratic citizens both fail to acknowledge it and allow themselves to be manipulated by it and to manipulate others with it.

Our great hope is that we have escaped this kind of ugliness in the past, and we can escape it in the future.

Almost 400 years ago, Thomas Hobbes wrote a book that students of politics still read today, The Leviathan, which was a comprehensive effort on Hobbes' part to help Great Britain escape the vestiges of religious partisanship and sectarianism that has torn apart his country in bloody civil wars.

Hobbes is recognized today as perhaps the first political scientist, attempting to account for political thought and behavior in a secular, scientific way rather than cloaked in religion -- though Leviathan has plenty of religious arguments as well; if you've not read it, I highly recommend it, especially in a modern political theory class with a professor as quality as Dr. David Ericson, my modern political theory professor at Wichita State University -- and in a way that was meant to transcend the bloody religious differences that had torn apart his country in 1642.

It was clearly a noble cause from our vantage point, today. Leaving behind the vestiges of a destructive religious sectarianism that could never resolve itself in any meaningful way except in common ground. It was very similar to the destructive ideological partisanship that we experience today, where so many people claim to have found ultimate truth about matters that they clearly have not out of a self-righteous notion that they or their thinking about the world is superior to their neighbor.

It is our democratic commitments that have more consistently than not saved us from the fate of Hobbes' 17th century England. I'm not quite sure how America would have fared the tumultuous 60's with their violence and ugliness without a mature, committed democracy. Democracy cannot save us from civil war, always, as America learned in the mid-19th century (a civil war that I've increasingly wondered if it might have been averted with diplomatic intervention by the French or another party and differences resolved more peacefuly and substantially, rather than through so much bloodshed).

And the saddest part about studying that period in English history or any such similar period in history or any such similar situation, where bloodshed or force replaces reasonable engagement, like genocide or holocaust or apartheid or segregation or oppression or repression or colonization or occupation, is that it is always for naught. So many people die or are hurt for so little valuable a cause.

Noone looks back on 17th century Protestants and Catholics and celebrates the heroism of partisans. Noone looks at dominance of Hutus of Tutsis, of white South Africans of black South Africans, of the British or French or Spanish or Portuguese over their colonial subjects and thinks thank goodness they imposed their will. Noone looks back over any political period and says those Democrats or those Republicans always seemed to get it right and the other guy always seemed to get it wrong. At least not honestly.

But, for whatever reasons, we all get so caught up in our partisanship, trying to prove our true colors, our true convictions.

When you would hope that the reason we would even care is to make peoples' lives better, not to destroy them or hurt them.

But for whatever reasons, we get so lost in our destructiveness and our desire to prove that we are right.

When the irony of the strongest reasoning is that it does not try to prove that it is right. The strongest reasoning is characterized by disconfirmability. The strongest reasoning tries to test if it is wrong. It is open to challenge. It looks for ways to prove it is not true, knowing that only an idea that can withstand such a challenge can be more true.

Everything else derives from other, less noble impulses. The impulse for power or to exact revenge or to hurt those who you believe have hurt those you love.

And so the cycle continues, unabated. A self-fulfilling prophecy of hurt and hate and control and threats and ugliness.

And all for naught.

It is so sad to me that people would be so lost in their animus toward one another that they would do this.

As Pablo Freire writes, those who are hurt or oppressed are likely to take it out on those who have hurt them or others.

I've been really angry with Brandi, lately. I've been trying to let it go. She was my best friend, after all. And by breaking off communication she was doing what most women and men likely do when they get married.

I've just been feeling really hurt. Hurt at the idea that I would not be able to keep up with her life or know how she was doing.

But I don't want that kind of shit on my heart. And I don't want to take it out on others.

I just want to wish her well and hope she's doing ok.

Whether we like it or not, love is what animates our lives. And it is what needs to animate all that is best about us. It is what we all need, most, and need to share most.

Jesus was right 2000 years ago. It's too bad they crucified him. I bet he would have been a pretty decent guy to hang with, even with all that Messiah talk:). I would have had a beer with him and suggested that he tone down the Messiah stuff and maybe hang with the rest of our friends. Or maybe find a girlfriend. But keep teaching. Because he had a lot of good things to say.
I hate all this hate. I don't understand why we have such a hard time to learn how to treat each other decently. I don't understand why we are so mean-spirited with one another in the name of being good to one another.

Why we are constantly forcing one anothers' hands in the name of freedom or equity or democracy and goodness or decency.

"Can't we all just get along?" Rodney King asked 15 years ago (my freshman year of college).

Can't we all just get along?

It's a good question.

"And if we can't, then who really gives a shit about any of it?" is my question.

Here's to loving our friends and family and neighbors just because, and not because they agree with us.

Merry Christmas, everyone.

Love,
Ben

Wednesday, December 20, 2006

All I want for Christmas is a new soulmate

I'm exhausted. I'm getting home ASAP and sleeping, I'm so tired.

You know what I want more than anything in life, I think?

Someone who thinks about and cares about the world like I do and who'll keep me company in that concern, support me in my efforts and in my life, and challenge me to do better, to think better, and to be a better person. Someone who enjoys a healthy lovelife and who has a kinky side would be nice, too:).

Most of all, I want a best friend. I want someone who shares my interests and whose interests I can share. I want someone that I want to spend all my free time with because she's just that fun to be around. I want someone who is constantly amazing me with her knowledge, understanding, love, compassion, courage and commitment.

I want to be with someone of substance who cares more about being a person of substance than any of the million more petty concerns that most people take up in life.

I want someone I respect to be my best friend and lover and all-around decent human being in my life.

I want someone in my life who I can persistently think, "I wonder what she thinks about this?"

I want someone who makes sense, generally, when we disagree and challenges me to make more sense in my own thinking and who agrees on all the important stuff that really matters.

I want a lover without pretension but who doesn't settle for second best as a human being. I want someone who engages in some friendly competition around who can be smarter, more decent, more loving, more charming, more reliable, and an all-around-great-mind-and-heart-to-spend-time-with.

What I want for Christmas this year is someone who will make my heart ache so badly when she passes on after years of marriage because the world so rarely sees such a decent human being.

I don't have many people, if at all, that I look up to, anymore. I have plenty of people I admire and respect and love. But rarely do I meet anymore and think, "God, they have all their priorities straight. That's someone whose wisdom I need to follow because my own priorities pale by comparison."

But that's who I want for a soulmate. Someone who inspires me and impresses me, or aspires to do all of these things.

That's all I want for Christmas.

Someone who senses my lonliness in a world where everyone seems to have a million excuses for why we can't make the world better in the big ways and who seeks to be my companion in making the world better despite the excuses of its inhabitants. Someone who likes thinking for its own sake. And who aspires to adopt my strengths and challenge them and me to get stronger, rather than try to make me feel bad for all the qualities that make me a great guy, I think.

This Christmas, I want someone who I think, "I think that is likely the best mom for my kids that I could ever meet." And who thinks the same about me.

Because, ultimately, I'm learning, that sums up everything I want in a woman. Someone who will be a mom for my kids, a best friend for me, and an amazing person in her own right, that I can bask in the glow of my admiration for what an amazing catch I have snagged.

Merry Christmas, everyone. Happy Hanukah. Happy New Year.

Love,
Ben