This has been the most bizarre period of American history I think I've ever witnessed.
Both political parties should carry a sign.
"We deliver so much progress, we have to keep reminding you that things are getting better."
Up is down. Richard Simmons likes girls. And less freedom equals more progress.
Bizarre. In the extreme.
Wake me when things aren't so utterly fucked up.
The Economist has a refreshingly honest discussion of the unequivocal failure of America's drug policies, especially on the American/Mexican border, and the cowardice of those unwilling to face it. No matter how many people have to die.
El Paso's small step
"In January the city council in El Paso, Texas, decided to pass a resolution expressing support for its neighbour on the Mexican side of the border. In recent years Ciudad Juárez has become one of the bloodiest cities in the world, wracked by turf wars between Mexico’s vicious drug cartels. Beto O’Rourke, a young city representative, thought the resolution could say a bit more about America’s role in the violence. He added an amendment: the city of El Paso was calling for an “honest, open national debate on ending the prohibition of narcotics.'
The city council approved, on an 8-0 vote. That was unusual, says Mr O’Rourke, because normally they bicker over where to put a speed bump. But the resolution hit a speed bump of its own. The mayor vetoed it, saying that El Paso would be a laughing-stock. Silvestre Reyes, the city’s powerful representative in Congress, warned that if the council tried to override the veto it might be hard for the city to get its fair share of federal funding.
The mayor’s veto was sustained. But if the goal was to stimulate debate, the effort has not been wasted. This week the University of Texas at El Paso held a conference on the costs and consequences of America’s drug policy. Speakers pointed to the carnage in Mexico and the corruption and graft funded by a huge black market. They mentioned the hundreds of thousands of Americans in jail on minor drug offences, and the millions of children with at least one parent somehow yoked to the criminal-justice system. They spoke of the cost of enforcement, and the courts gummed up with trivial possession cases.
'To just deny that and say it’s all working—it’s morally wrong, it’s politically wrong, and some day it’s going to come back to haunt us,' said Howard Campbell, an anthropologist at the university. On the first day of the conference there were eight murders across the bridge in Juárez, including one beheading."
The situation on the Mexican border is unambiguous evidence for Milton Friedman's argument that the criminalization of drugs not only does not stem its demand and trade, but that it makes the trade far more violent, as those engaged in the industry enforce their own trade without the option of working with law enforcement.
There is simply no other way to interpret what has happened in northern Mexico in the last few years. And it is costing the lives of more Mexicans than Americans can ever claim to grieve dying in the World Trade Towers or any terrorist attack on our soil.
Americans have a strange and dishonest relationship with the law, is the truth. We violated it openly leading up to the American Revolution in our disgust with the British Government. And, today, Americans are pretending that they have respected it all along. Which just simply is not true. And American's drug use is but one of the multitude of examples of just how dishonest that posturing has been.
It just happens to be one example that is killing people regularly.
Because they make everything go to shit. No matter how much they pretend otherwise.
The human race should remember from now into perpetuity that to the extent that it is a goddamned mess, it is because it has stubbornly chose to be so. And if it chooses to be so, that it is them, and not the sharks and the bears and the bumblebees that will have to live with themselves. Although, sadly, they will have to put up with their mess, too. And if they choose to believe that it can never be all that much better, then it most certainly never will. And there's not a damn thing that the bumblebees or anyone else can do about it.
And it is for all that they can feel secure in their stubborn pride. Congratulations, homo sapiens. There's noone else quite like you. And if they ever do succeed in being the first and only species to ever kill off their own ranks, if they're going to stubbornly refuse to use the decency and good sense that God gave them, Mother Nature should maybe cut her losses. And start over with a species not quite so likely to repeatedly tie together its own shoestrings.
It's been a long time since I've read something with which I could wholeheartedly agreed. Fareed Zakaria finally wrote that piece.
Obama the Gambler
"There is a phony realism brandished on the right these days that says no one will ever cooperate with America. Russia and China have their own interests, and any attempt to find common ground is naive. We might as well all hold hands and sing "Kumbaya." Now, of course countries have their own interests, which are often in conflict. But they also often share some interests. A central task of diplomacy is to explore those areas of agreement, build on them and thus create a more stable world. That's why we have treaties on everything from trade to taxation, adhered to by most nations for their collective benefit.
In fact, Obama's approach has already produced remarkable results. Russia and China, after long opposition, agreed last week to a toughening of the nuclear Non-Proliferation Treaty. In a striking shift, Russia signaled that it may support tougher sanctions against Iran. The Obama administration's decision to cultivate a relationship with both countries, to listen to their concerns, is paying off.
Obama's outreach to the world is an experiment, and not merely to see if the world will respond. He wants to demonstrate at home that engagement does not make America weak. For decades, it's been thought deadly for an American politician to be seen as seeking international cooperation. Denouncing, demeaning and insulting other countries was a cheap and easy way to seem strong. In the battle of images, tough and stupid always seemed to win.
Obama is gambling that America is mature enough to understand that machismo is not foreign policy and that grandstanding on the global stage won't succeed. In a new world, with other countries more powerful and confident, America's success -- its security, its prosperity -- depends on working with others. It's a big, bold gambit. I hope it works."
"In the battle of images, tough and stupid always seemed to win."
Best line I've read in a long time. Truer than most people know. And one of the more profound and all-too-tragic forms of bullshit the world has likely ever known.
It is time to stop pretending to be like our terrorist enemies. It is time to be more like us. That is where real strength lies.
If we can only be willing to summon the courage it requires.
Maybe there is no reason for my existence, at all. Because Matt Stone and Trey Parker seem to have it all covered.
South Park: Fatbeard
Better than anything I've ever told the kids. Definitely more likely to get their attention.
Perhaps a field trip to Somalia. Or career day with pirates. What doesn't teach 'em, might kill 'em. A win-win all-around for me.
I might just be in the wrong profession. At least if I want kids to listen to me. I'm pretty sure gangster rap is out of the cards, at this point. Given a full set of teeth and a less than substantial prison record.
Could be worse. I could be in Congress. If I never want anyone to listen to me, at all.
Good to know where I fit on the food chain.
Next time around, I'm telling fart jokes and wearing a gold chain. If I ever want to be taken seriously, that is.
The next time any progressive or conservative acts like freedom doesn't matter, or that it only matters for the causes they happen to favor, I want them to spend 3 minutes (9, if they have it) for a glimpse of what it looks like when people really believe that freedom doesn't matter. And that they can save the world, if only they had enough power.
This is not a new dream. It is an old nightmare. As old as homo sapiens have inhabited the planet. It has reaped much death and destruction.
And no real progress. Ever. Not even in the same leagues, really, with what free peoples have to offer.
We can take that for granted all we would like. But it is fact. No matter how much we might not want to face that fact. Because it doesn't square with our one most serious preexisting condition.
Our pride. The deadliest sin for a reason.
Because it kills more than all the rest.
It's time to end that legacy. Or at least end each of our contributions to that legacy.
By learning to take that freedom, and all the good and bad it has always had to offer and always will, more seriously than we take ourselves.
Every conservative who puts forward this weak-ass argument forgets one very important fact.
The UN loves Barack Obama because he is weak
Beyond being a really poor understanding of world affairs and America's role in it.
For being so weak, the President just beat the living shit out of this guy's party.
What that says about conservatives who make this argument, I'd be curious.
But I'm pretty sure that if you're saying that the President is a faggot, that you just got your ass beat by a faggot. You fuckin' pussy.
Remember that, the next time you think about calling names, dumbass.
Because that pussy just owned your ass in the last election. And he'll give you a beat-down again if you don't have better arguments than that to offer.
Because independents like me, who swing elections, will be voting for the man who doesn't whine like a little bitch when his understanding is weak.
Can I ask kind of a dumb question?
What exactly has gone well since we started kicking ass?
Isn't that the straight-forward standard for progress?
That things start going better?
Where has that happened, exactly?
Good question, don't you think?
I guess that's what progress looks like the in the 21st century.
It's so radical, you can't even see it show up anywhere.
Good thing we're moving forward, huh?
Cause if things got any better, the world would just be a terrible mess.
And what would we do then?
Ex-NY Giant Burress gets 2 years in gun case
Thank goodness Plaxico Burress is off the streets.
Mr. National Football League thinks he can bring a gun into a night club, have it go off accidentally, and not be separated from his wife and 3-year-old son for one or two years?
It's getting scum like Plaxico off the streets that is finally gonna clean things up.
Just like last time. And the time before that. And the time before that. And every time since civilization began policing itself.
If kids like Elijah want to see their fathers, they need to start telling them to follow the rules and everything will finally fall into order.
That day should be coming soon.
Wait for it. It's coming.
Wait for it.
Wait for it.
Oh well.
If not, don't worry.
Noone is responsible. Ever.
Because that's the best we can manage, anyway.
Attention assholes of the world:
President Obama is not responsible for us being such assholes. We are.
Obama's Worldwide Star Power Finds Limits
"Obama began building expectations for peace in the Middle East in the first months of his presidency and raised hopes even higher with a June speech in Cairo in which he pledged that he could make things happen.
He asked Israel to ease its embargo of the Gaza Strip and freeze construction in West Bank settlements. He asked the Arab states to take steps toward 'normalization' of ties with Israel. He made restarting Israeli-Palestinian peace talks a top priority, announced plans to repair relations with Syria and said he would engage, rather than confront, Iran.
On Saturday, the White House announced that Obama plans to hold a three-way meeting with Israeli Prime Minister Binyamin Netanyahu and Palestinian Authority President Mahmoud Abbas in New York on Tuesday. It will be the first meeting between the two since Netanyahu took office.
'It is another sign of the president's deep commitment to comprehensive peace that he wants to personally engage at this juncture,' special envoy George J. Mitchell said.
But progress has been slow, and the frustration has built on all sides -- among Israeli officials upset that he focused public demands on them; among Arabs, especially Palestinians, over his inability to wrest concessions from Israel; among human rights activists who say his idealism has not been borne out in action.
'I think there has been too little appreciation of realities and too much well-intentioned belief in the power of rhetoric and goodwill,' said Mark Heller, principal research associate at the Institute for National Security Studies at Tel Aviv University.
Rice countered that Obama has made 'significant progress on a wide array of issues' relating to the Middle East peace process, which she noted has been a difficult problem for 'every prior administration.'
But White House officials said they do not expect an agreement on settlements to be announced at the three-way meeting next week. The Islamist Hamas movement in the Gaza Strip has said that Mitchell's inability to negotiate that agreement with Israel proves Obama's shortcomings.
It is 'proof of the failure of the Obama administration in helping the Palestinian people,' Hamas spokesman Fawzi Barhoum said in a statement, reflecting a broad skepticism among Arabs about whether Obama's overture to the Muslim world would make a difference on the ground.
Israeli officials, meanwhile, have also expressed concern that his policy of engagement toward Iran is allowing too much time to pass without any steps to slow Tehran's nuclear program. Israel and other nations say they suspect that Iran is intent on building a weapon; Iran says its program is peaceful.
The United States has agreed to hold discussions with Iran and several other countries on Oct. 1, prompting fears in Israel and among critics of the administration that delay will inevitably result.
'It is not just here that the administration is starting to be mugged by reality,' Heller said. 'They used nice words and tried to engage . . . In the meantime, the scorecard on North Korea is not much better. On [Venezuelan President Hugo] Chávez it is not much better. We don't see reforms pushed in Cuba.'
'Process of Disappointment'
Writing recently in Le Figaro, one of France's leading daily newspapers, Pierre Rousselin, one of the paper's top editors, offered an assessment that might still be considered heresy in Europe: 'Barack Obama is not the Messiah.'
Obama's political struggles at home and his performance internationally have led some observers abroad to remark that a charismatic leader who seemed to be walking on water last year is only human, subject to the same bruising political battles as everybody else.
Several have noted that his effort to cultivate better relations with Russia has not produced concrete help from Moscow in the confrontation with Iran and that -- so far -- Israel has stiff-armed his plea for an end to Jewish settlements.
Obama has made good on his promises to begin winding down the Iraq war and to take steps to close Guantanamo. But at the same time, he has ramped up U.S. fighting in Afghanistan, a sore point with many Europeans and a difficult political issue for Obama's counterparts around the world. And despite shifting U.S. policy on climate change, the president is unlikely to see a global climate-change agreement materialize at the summit in Copenhagen later this year.
U.S. officials point to their success in getting Russia and China to back stiff new sanctions on North Korea as evidence of their success on the world stage.
The real test of attitudes in European capitals is likely to emerge in coming months, experts there say, particularly if Obama fails to make headway on his main foreign policy objectives or if the war in Afghanistan causes an unacceptable casualty rate among European soldiers attached to NATO's International Security Assistance Force.
'There's definitely going to be a process of disappointment that goes on internationally because U.S. interests are much more constant than many people recognize,' said David Bosco, a professor of international politics at American University and the author of a new book about the U.N. Security Council. 'But he remains quite popular abroad, and foreign leaders know that.'
Surveys consistently show that Obama remains popular among people throughout Europe. A new poll by the German Marshall Fund put his approval rate at 77 percent across Europe and at 92 percent in Germany.
'I'm not criticizing the previous administration, because they were equally motivated, but I think the view [of other governments] was that by cooperating too closely with the Americans at that time tainted them,' said one senior Obama official. 'So I feel there is a greater receptivity now to engage the United States because of some of the decisions made by President Obama.'
In Latin America, the aftermath of the coup in Honduras in June has prompted criticism of Obama's policies. Although the administration condemned the overthrow of President Manuel Zelaya and said it would not recognize the government that took power, it has been unable to restore him to power.
Obama's election was welcomed by some of South America's most influential leaders, among them Brazilian President Luiz Inácio Lula da Silva. But as in other corners of the world, the initial warm relations have cooled as the United States has pursued a Bush-era policy that consolidates the U.S. military presence in Colombia, Washington's closest ally on the continent.
A Spotlight in New York
In his speech to the General Assembly on Wednesday, Obama will lay out 'his view of international cooperation in the 21st century and the need to move beyond old divisions,' Rice told reporters Friday.
Rice's predecessor, John Bolton, predicted that 'the greeting will be rapturous' for the new U.S. president. 'It's a triumph for Obama personally, but I have yet to see his personal popularity translate into concrete steps forward,' Bolton said.
Despite the warm greeting, the media's attention -- and as a result, the world's -- may be riveted on others.
Iran's president, Mahmoud Ahmadinejad, will be speaking shortly after Obama. In a preview of his speech Friday morning, Ahmadinejad told an anti-Israel rally in Tehran that the Holocaust was 'a false pretext to create Israel' and said confronting the regime is a 'national and religious duty.'
That kind of rhetoric will put the spotlight squarely on Obama's policy of engagement and the upcoming talks between U.S. and Iranian officials in Istanbul.
'I don't think there's much likelihood that there will be an interaction' between the two leaders, Rice said. 'There's no obvious venue in which that would occur, and certainly we have no meetings or anything of the sort planned.'
A day later, Obama will chair a meeting of the 15-member Security Council, where Libyan leader Moammar Gaddafi , who gave a hero's welcome to the Lockerbie bomber, will be in attendance. An interaction between the two in the small council chambers could be awkward.
Gelb, the former president of the Council on Foreign Relations, predicted that Obama's visit to the United Nations will be welcomed by most of the world's leaders.
'Most of them want him to succeed,' Gelb said. 'Now they are looking for him to put up the goods.'"
If President Obama invites assholes who kill each other's civilian populations for better land deals to a peace conference and they decide to walk away so they can go kill more civilians to quench their bitterness and their lust for land and power, he is not responsible for those assholes warring on each others' populations. He can lead a horse to water, but he can't make them drink if they are intent on staring at their own ding-a-lings or more interested in making each other eat shit.
You know who is responsible for a peace deal between Israelis and Palestinians? Israelis and Palestinians. And they want to keep dying and killing one another out of their bitterness and endless and hopeless quest for revenge, so fucking be it. Die motherfuckers. Until you can get straight that a peace deal with two independent states that do not shoot at one another and that can learn to share access to places of worship, water, and every other shared resource in the region that will need active coooperation for a peace deal to work.
You can't find it in your teeny-tiny little hearts to move forward and put that ugly, brutal past behind you and sign a reasonable and fair peace deal between future neighbors rather than hostile enemies.
Then keep dying. And America and Barack Obama are not responsible for your murderous and self-centered ways. You are. And the bodies will keep piling up until you face that fact.
Who is responsible for the coup in Honduras? The people who authorized that coup - the Honduran Supreme Court, namely - and the Honduran military who carried it out. And who is responsible for more honest democratic commitments there? The people of Honduras. We'll do what we can do to help. But if you want to be a banana republic and pretend like it's all good and "within the rule of law," so be it. And live with the consequences. But don't pretend it's really democratic or that Barack Obama is at fault for your backwards ways. You are responsible for your country. Or so everyone keeps telling Americans they want to be the case. When they don't want us around, that is.
Who is responsible for Cuba maintaining as a Communist backwater in a hemisphere where free market economies are taking off like hotcakes? Fidel Castro. And the Cubans and leftists everywhere who support this cocksucking, thuggish regime. President Obama might decide, with his limited time, energies, and priorities, to try to end what I, and I would imagine he might agree, is a foolish and counterproductive embargo that clearly undermines our efforts to help free the Cuban people. But if he doesn't, because he's kinda busy, if you didn't notice, Cubans are responsible for their own fate. We'll do what we can to help.
Who is responsible for the situation in Afghanistan, fundamentally? The Afghanis. We might help if they want it (if Americans don't give up on the effort, altogether). But, if they don't, we'll pack up and let them deal with their own mess, gladly. Less Americans dying is alright by me. Unless it will do some good. And that can only happen if Afghanis know that they, when it comes down to it, are responsible for their democracy and their fate.
Who is responsible for climate change? All of us. Which is why those of us who are skeptical of catastrophic scenarios need a more thorough debate and discussion about what efforts might look like, how urgent it might or might not be, and what can be done to get everyone genuinely on board, assuming the need for behavior change, rather than this dance of trying to compel their will and people fighting those efforts every step along the way. Especially when there might be good reason for them to be skeptical. Which I think there is, at least for the impacts of what looks like fairly modest warming.
I do not want hostile, swaggering, irrational states to have nuclear weapons. But that describes just about every state that has one (though clearly America and European countries are more trustworthy with them; especially as it concerns my own personal interests). Iran and North Korea, the former being a democracy, of sorts, are tricky because they do have a right to a reasonable self-defense. And the more we threaten and coerce them, the more ambitious they have become in their nuclear pursuit. Engagement would be a better route to a more honest discussion and some reassurance that we are not intending military force on their regimes, even as we are disgusted by their governments and their lust for power and its consequences for their people. If we are intent on using military force, it is perfectly rational on their part to pursue weapons to defend themselves. Hence, the need to stop threatening such. If we don't want more of the same, that is. And that policy, of threats and sanctions, if you notice, has resulted in a big doughnut hole in terms of a lesser likelihood of them chasing and developing nuclear weapons.
When we're being honest, that is.
And that really is the problem.
In all this flurry of power and its pursuit, what all the assholes in the world have in common is that the more they want the power, the less honest they become. About their failures. And about the failure of being an asshole making things better, in general. Anywhere. At all. Ever. Strength has its place. But abusing power is the most common and reliable impulse when people romaticize its use.
That's what Lord Acton meant. And he was right. No matter how soft you might think that makes him. Because he did not magically make you stop being an asshole. Which only makes sense since the only person who can make you stop being an an asshole is you. The best everyone else can do is contain you, and even that has its limits, for a short time until you get that figured out.
But it is people getting that figured out for themselves and people and peoples getting figured out that they are responsible for their own destiny that is the only real way forward.
Barack Obama never claimed to be the messiah. And he's not here to be crucified while we drop the ball in our own responsibility in our own messes.
If we want the world to be less violent, have less conflict, be more peaceful, decent, prosperous, free and the like, we've got to learn to stop being such assholes.
And there is precious little that Barack Obama or anyone can do about that.
Except ourselves.
There are very few Americans who know what it honestly means to be a liberal like Milton Friedman.
Whether we want to acknowledge the importance of our freedom or not, Friedman's ideas improved the lives of a substantial proportion of the world in the 20th and 21st centuries. The great irony of this century is that, in our cowardice, we decided to turn back the clock on the single most important contribution to our progress for the last two centuries: our liberty.
And Dr. Friedman was an unapologetic supporter of that progress and the idea that made it possible. And that, whether we want to get honest about it or not, is what it means to be a liberal. To be committed to liberty as the best means of enabling our progress.
We take all that freedom for granted because we have so much available, today. And people like Milton Friedman made that possible.
Thanks, Milton. Thanks for genuinely believing in our liberal values. And for believing in us.
I was wrong. Mike Judge is hilarious. And Stephen Colbert makes me choke on my Cheetos. But Monty Python is definitely the wisest of the wise guys.
What a stupid, foolish lot we are, sometimes. We generally get things figured out, eventually. But makes us goddamned entertaining until we do.
What a more honest liberal voice had to say about what makes for honest governance.
"Too often we honor swagger and bluster and wielders of force; too often we excuse those who are willing to build their own lives on the shattered dreams of others...
...This is the breaking of a man's spirit by denying him the chance to stand as a father and as a man among other men. And this too afflicts us all.
I have not come here to propose a set of specific remedies nor is there a single set. For a broad and adequate outline we know what must be done. When you teach a man to hate and fear his brother, when you teach that he is a lesser man because of his color or his beliefs or the policies he pursues, when you teach that those who differ from you threaten your freedom or your job or your family, then you also learn to confront others not as fellow citizens but as enemies, to be met not with cooperation but with conquest; to be subjugated and mastered.
We learn, at the last, to look at our brothers as aliens, men with whom we share a city, but not a community; men bound to us in common dwelling, but not in common effort. We learn to share only a common fear, only a common desire to retreat from each other, only a common impulse to meet disagreement with force. For all this, there are no final answers.
Yet we know what we must do. It is to achieve true justice among our fellow citizens. The question is not what programs we should seek to enact. The question is whether we can find in our own midst and in our own hearts that leadership of humane purpose that will recognize the terrible truths of our existence.
We must admit the vanity of our false distinctions among men and learn to find our own advancement in the search for the advancement of others. We must admit in ourselves that our own children's future cannot be built on the misfortunes of others. We must recognize that this short life can neither be ennobled or enriched by hatred or revenge.
Our lives on this planet are too short and the work to be done too great to let this spirit flourish any longer in our land. Of course we cannot vanquish it with a program, nor with a resolution.
But we can perhaps remember, if only for a time, that those who live with us are our brothers, that they share with us the same short moment of life; that they seek, as do we, nothing but the chance to live out their lives in purpose and in happiness, winning what satisfaction and fulfillment they can.
Surely, this bond of common faith, this bond of common goal, can begin to teach us something. Surely, we can learn, at least, to look at those around us as fellow men, and surely we can begin to work a little harder to bind up the wounds among us and to become in our own hearts brothers and countrymen once again."
May we find a more honest voice again.
Gotta give props to Iranian protesters who are now, consistently, defying government bans on demonstrations critical of the government.
Thousands march in Iran opposition protests
Note to Americans and other liberal democratic citizens who take their freedoms for granted:
This is what progress really looks like. And it doesn't require jack shit from the government. This kind of courage is what it looks like when people value their freedom and the world it makes possible.
The truth is that we're just all kinda spoiled. Not really the same as progress, at all.
Progress dictates we weed out the scofflaws. Don't know how we'll ever get any progress up in this place if nobody's gonna take the law all that seriously.
Proxy wedding means Marine's widow, baby unwelcome
"Hotaru Ferschke just wants to raise her 8-month-old son in his grandparents' Tennessee home, surrounded by photos and memories of the father he'll never meet: a Marine who died in combat a month after marrying her from thousands of miles away.
Sgt. Michael Ferschke was killed in Iraq in 2008, leaving his widow and infant son, both Japanese citizens, in immigration limbo: A 1950s legal standard meant to curb marriage fraud means U.S. authorities do not recognize the marriage, even though the military does.
Ferschke and his bride had been together in Japan for more than a year, and she was pregnant when he deployed. They married by signing their names on separate continents and did not have a chance to meet again in person after the wedding, which a 57-year-old immigration law requires for the union to be considered consummated.
'She is being denied because they are saying her marriage is not valid because it was not consummated — despite the fact that they have a child together,' said Brent Renison, an immigration lawyer in Oregon who has advised the family.
Hotaru Ferschke and the baby, Michael 'Mikey' Ferschke III, are staying for now on a temporary visa at the home of her parents-in-law, in the Smoky Mountains town of Maryville. Robin and Michael Ferschke Sr., who are fighting for their daughter-in-law to stay, have emblazoned their son's picture on everything from a blanket draped on the back of the couch to a waving banner on the fence outside.
The 22-year-old Marine radio operator met the young Japanese woman at a party while he was stationed in Okinawa. Though neither knew much of the other's language, something clicked.
'He called me after they met and he goes, 'Mom, I am in love,'' Robin Ferschke said.
The couple were together about 13 months before he left for Iraq in April 2008. He had proposed and they were trying to conceive a baby before he deployed, Hotaru Ferschke said.
About two weeks after he left, she found she was pregnant. He wanted to get married quickly so she could start getting health benefits as the spouse of an American soldier, she said.
They agreed on a proxy wedding, which has a long history in the military and in some other cases where bride and groom can't be in the same place for a ceremony.
Procedures for a proxy marriage vary by country. Some take place by phone while others require a proxy to physically stand in for the absent partner during a ceremony.
Japan doesn't require a wedding ceremony, and couples getting married only have to complete sworn affidavits proving they are legally free to marry and register at a Japanese municipal government office, according to the U.S. Embassy. Hotaru Ferschke said she and her husband got their proxy marriage simply by completing the paperwork and their marriage was final on July 10, one month before he was shot during a house search.
The U.S. military recognizes proxy marriages for couples separated by war and helps facilitate them. The Marines are paying survivor benefits to Ferschke and her baby.
Proxy marriages are legal in at least four U.S. states. One of the most famous proxy weddings in recent history was that between Ekaterina Dmitriev in Texas to Russian cosmonaut Yuri Malenchenko in 2003 as he was floating in the international space station.
Pregnant and alone in Japan, Ferschke tried to apply for permanent residency in the United States and was denied.
Kenneth Sherman, a field office director for U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services who handled the Ferschke case, declined to answer questions from The Associated Press about it. In a letter to the widow, Sherman said he believed that U.S. law required the denial, although he found the situation 'personally distressing.'"
You know what bugs me? People who think they can fight for our country, have a child with someone they love, and then flaunt the very law that so clearly makes our progress possible.
Does this man's family really believe that this soldier's sacrafice somehow compares to the undeniable wisdom that so generously goes into crafting our legal path to political heaven?
Here we go engaging in all this sacrafice of our time to meet in legislatures, write emails, make conference calls and otherwise make progress happen up in this godforesaken cesspool of ignorance and lawlessness.
And this young soldier thinks it's all about him.
The nerve of some people.
When is America ever going to finally rid itself of all this self-centered so-called "sacrafice".
When they pass a law, that's when.
Pardon my abruptness. I have a Congressman to write.
All my friends know to play the last 15 minutes of The Life of Brian at my funeral.
I'd be alright with animated video tribute to The Crash Test Dummies' Superman Song, too, if it doesn't sound like too pretensious a request.
And if it does, then play something about self-important twits getting their due. Something along these lines, perhaps.
But I wouldn't mind having this played, as well.
Annie's got my number and my favorite break-up song. And my favorite melody for saying goodbye.
This scene from Ken Burns' brilliant documentary, Mark Twain: Known to Everyone, Liked by All - captures much of the work I think humanity has to make any genuine progress.
And I love Twain because he understands, more than most, that does not and cannot happen because a thumb is placed firmly enough on our heads. To the contrary, this generally makes us more likely to fight efforts to do or be better. Often for good reason. Because big thumbs are generally attached to flawed and, too often, not so big people. Including my own great big, overdrawn thumb. Just ask my kids.
What Twain understood well, as a former Confederate and a young man prone to a conventional racism of his day and more avowedly committed, by the end of his lifetime, to ending racism than most people of his time - was that any important learning also involves unlearning.
And generally, among adults, more unlearning still.
And the most important thing that everyone has to unlearn, today, is that any of us has all the right answers. Now or ever. Or that any of them will be arrived at with just enough aggression. And that particular mistake, that aggression is the source of our solutions rather than the source of most of our problems, is the most important idea for us to unlearn, right now.
And no amount of force will ever do all that learning and unlearning for us. To the contrary, it is as often, if not more often, used to defend our mistakes - like slavery and racism, if we were to ever get honest with ourselves about the law and its uses and misuses - as it is ever to correct them.
And that is the reason that the wisest among us have liberal commitments. Commitments to liberty.
Because the one most serious thing in the way of all that learning is our own miserable and manipulative efforts to force one another to be something different.
Force has limited purposes. And no more. No matter what other romantic notions we might have on the matter.
And this period has been one long referendum on whether that dark romance is one that will animate us in perpetuity. Or be the long, ugly legacy that we finally put behind us.
And, interestingly enough, it is not my faith in how people are behaving, currently, that gives me confidence that we get this figured out.
It's that long history of fumbling forward, two steps at a time and one step backward, that convinces me that we will turn out alright.
We just need to get more honest with ourselves about what steps are forward and which ones are backward.
Some words of reassurance. We're not moving forward. Not until we figure out that moving forward means treating each other better. Not worse.
Not the hardest standard for progress to get our noggins wrapped around, I don't think.
Just some unlearning is all. And some appreciation for ourselves and our propensity to be jackasses, in the process.
The conversation I had with the kids, today, was the conversation we need to be having as a country and as a civilization, right now.
You know who obsesses about whether they're weak or strong?
People who are afraid they're weak.
We need to make a choice.
Are we weak? Or are we strong?
Because strong folks don't sit around and obsess about whether they are strong. They just are. I don't have to sit and obsess about whether I'm tough enough or not. I just am.
And I know, now, from much of my own past experience obsessing about whether I was tough enough or not, in my lifetime, that it's a fool's question.
Because those who are strong, just are. They don't need to obsess about that question.
The only people who obsess about it are people who are afraid they are weak. And, often because they are.
People like Osama Bin Ladan. Saddam Hussein. Kim Jong Il. The Burmese military junta. Robert Mugabe. Fidel Castro. Mahmoud Ahmadinejad. Hamas. Hezbollah. Stalin. Hitler. And all the other terrorists, despots, and weak-ass motherfuckers in the world. And, specifically, all the motherfuckers who end up the biggest losers in life every single fucking time. Without exception. All those motherfuckers eventually eat dirt. Every single time.
The question we need to answer is:
Are we weak? Or are we strong?
Because strong people don't sit around obsessing about whether they are strong or not. They just are.
And that is who we need to be.
I know she's only 10 years old and all the complications that come with a mature judgment about a matter like this.
But, given the circumstances - a mother who wants to home school, a father who wants her to attend public school, and a family court that must resolve their difference - would it kill folks to ask this girl what she might want for her education?
Under God: Judging Amanda
"If you've ever wondered why conservative evangelical Christians seem so concerned about the dangers of government intervention in our lives, read a recent New Hampshire family court ruling that 10-year-old Amanda -- who has been home-schooled by her religiously conservative mother since first grade -- must now attend public school.
The plaintiff (Amanda's father -- the couple divorced shortly after Amanda was born) 'believes that exposure to other points of view will decrease Amanda's rigid adherence to her mother's religious beliefs, and increase her ability to get along with others and to function in a world which requires some element of independent thinking and tolerance for different points of view,' family court Justice Lucinda Sadler explained.
The court agreed that Amanda 'appeared to reflect her mother's rigidity on questions of faith . . . Amanda's relationship with her father suffers to some degree by her belief that his refusal to adopt her religious beliefs and his choice instead to spend eternity away from her proves that he does not love her as much as he says he does.'
Millions of conservative evangelical Christians adhere to the same rigid and exclusive belief system about eternal salvation. Should we require them to attend tolerance classes? Should we court-order all of them to send their kids to public schools?
The Alliance Defense Fund, established to defend conservative Christians in such cases, has filed motions asking the New Hampshire court to reconsider its decision. 'A mother has a constitutionally protected right under the First and Fourteenth Amendments to make decisions regarding Amanda's schooling, religious training and other parenting issues without interference by the Court,' the motions state.
No doubt the court would not have interfered with the rights of these parents if they had been able to agree on Amanda's schooling. And fathers have constitutional rights, too. Family court-level justice is never easy and rarely clear-cut, especially when divorced parents are squabbling about how to raise the kid. When that happens, it becomes a judge's job to determine the best interests of the child.
But should any court determine which religious beliefs are emotionally, psychologically or socially healthy for a child? Would the court have ruled for Amanda's father if Amanda's mother was an open-minded, tolerant believer that God loves everyone and everyone goes to heaven?
And does the court have no confidence in the time-honored, sacrosanct tradition of teenage rebellion?"
I am consistently amazed at how progressives and others who claim to care about the independent thought of children in such situations seem to give scant concern, at all, for what they might think.
Seems to me that if you want people to exercise independent thought, as I do, you would want to give them the opportunity to exercise that thought rather than make decisions for them.
Or perhaps what many people mean when they say independent thought is that they want you to think independently, as long as you agree with them.
And that really is the crux of what is wrong with America today.
And this 10-year-old girl just learned a sad lesson about America.
When we say we want you to think independently, what we mean is that you are going to do what we say or else.
A little backwards, by any honest standard. And certainly not evidence of progress.
Progress is when, among other things, people are able to think and make choices for themselves and when their conscience and their choices are taken seriously as a matter of independent judgment.
And if what we are really interested in is Amanda's independent thought, perhaps we might start by respecting it.
Lovin' this.
Katherine Ng is the art world's version of the same phenonema. 
Katherine Ng. A Hypothetical Analysis of the Twinkle in Stars (as told by a child to a teacher) (1994). From the 1995-96 exhibition Science and the Artist's Book.
People with powerful talent who just happen to bring it to kids.
Gotta love that.
Does anyone really believe that Marxism could ever be responsible for something like this? Or Islamism? Or socialism? Or fascism? Or even progressivism or conservativism?
Why do people all over the world jam to the same bumpin' dance music?
Because free markets and free societies, where people can access whatever music they can get their hands on, make that possible. Not to mention making possible Youtube where we all just watched it and all of the equipment and materials that made that wedding and its filming realizable.
And what I love about free markets and free societies, as with love and everything that really matters in life, is that we are free to take all of it for granted all we want. And live with the quite natural, and, sadly, some quite unnatural and often ugly and meanspirited, consequences of those choices.
And I am goddamned proud, at this point, to live somewhere where I have the freedom to make my own choices, good and bad, and live with those quite natural consequences.
I want more of it. Not less.
And, at the end of the day, the people responsible for taking it all for granted, and reaping what it sows, and for changing that direction, to reap something better, are not George Bush or Barack Obama or any of their cheerleaders or demonizers.
It is us.
And I love a country and a world where we're free to do just that.
I do wonder, these days, if it is possible for us to lie to ourselves and one another more than we are these days. About the law. About how seriously we really take it or don't take it, depending on our purposes. About power. And about how much we respect it to resolve important matters, depending on our purposes.
This period has been one long lie. About people who believe power will resolve their problems as long as they have it and the other guy doesn't.
And no matter how much tragedy that belief has reaped on the world, people hold onto it like a money-chest waiting to purchase their deepest fantasies about how the world will finally be right once they have it.
It is a dark and awful legacy, that legacy of power. It is why Acton said that power corrupts. And I am, without doubt, convinced that he was right, today.
Watching American progressives and conservatives in these last 10 years, I'm convinced that power seriously distorts honest conscience and personal responsibility, which is exactly what Acton was talking about when he made that statement. It leads to a long defense of any behavior, no matter how attrocious, in the name of it. And no matter how many people are hurt, killed, or our most honest values undermined by our clamor for power, those who want it, badly enough, will defend it against even its most obvious abuses.
It is a sickness. Similar to greed. And driven by the deadliest of sins. Pride.
And it is responsible for most human tragedy, not most human progress, no matter the protestations to the contrary.
Power can be used, legitimately for very few purposes, and, after that, people should be free to deal with one another in good conscience.
Everything else has persistently and without end proven itself to be one long lie in the name of whatever purpose that lie is attached to.
Power corrupts. Absolute power corrupts absolutely.
And no matter how much we take those liberal thinkers for granted who made possible our ability to have that debate openly, honestly, and without censure, they were right.
No matter how much we pretend otherwise.
Churchill was right. And Leon Hadar makes the case.
Hadar, of the Cato Institute, admirably offers support to Barack Obama's strongest suit amidst a period of domestic policy-promotion that he, like me, is likely not happy with.
The Case for Engaging Iran
"Engaging Iran as part of an effort to freeze its nuclear program would not be a reward to the Ayatollahs. It would be part of a strategy to advance U.S. strategic interests which successive American administrations have implemented by engaging anti-American totalitarian regimes (Soviet Union; China) as well as those espousing anti-Israeli and even anti-Semitic views (Saudi Arabia) which, unlike Iran, have not even pretended to hold free elections.
Obama should also recognize that a reversal of his engagement policy, or even an attempt to slow it down, would only play into the hands of the extremists in both Tehran and Washington. It would create a diplomatic vacuum in which an Israeli military strike against Iran's nuclear sites would become inevitable.
Indeed, the danger with subscribing to the current conventional wisdom on Iran is that it could prove to be a self-fulfilling prophecy."
Hadar is wrong, I believe, to argue that Iran is not being provocative in its nuclear ambitions or that they have nothing to do with anti-American or anti-Western sentiment. To the contrary, I'm fairly certain that this is driving much of the current efforts, even as he is correct to argue his larger point, which is that a nuclear capability is not only the ambition of Kahmeni, Ahmadinejad, and their conservative and clerical allies.
That is actually the trick in Iran that does not get discussed much because it contradicts American ambitions to prevent a regime we do not trust and who is hostile to American power from developing a nuclear capability.
The truth is that the reason that developing a nuclear capability is popular across the political spectrum, as Hadar rightly argues, I believe, is because there is a legitimate self-defence policy interest involved that Americans consistently gloss over because they just don't want Iran to get the bomb.
But Americans are having a hard time, right now, grasping what Americans have a hard time grasping, generally. Which is that just because America wants something doesn't mean that they get it or deserve it.
Iran does have a legitimate interest in self-defense. Especially in recent years when it has been threatened repeatedly with invasion. Which threats, obvious to any observer not trying to defend America and Israeli behavior, and threats, generally, to Iran's self-defense capabilities, have accelerated their nuclear ambitions, not decelerated those efforts. Iran's pursuit of nuclear weapons only got hot AFTER Americans and the Bush Administration took off in hot pursuit to stop them from moving in that direction. And it did so because that Iranian regime saw such overtures, rationally and irrationally as a real threat and rationally as an encroachment on their sovereign right to self-defense.
Our efforts, since 2003, have clearly increased their pursuit of those weapons, not deterred them, by any objective assessment. The reason so many people are failing to make that assessment is because many folks are being defensive of a policy that has clearly failed, by any fair measure. And for many years, now.
Hadar is right that to avoid more of that same failure, we need a diplomatic course that discusses issues like Iran's right to self-defense and how that can be guaranteed under any agreement. Including an arrangment where Iran has a nuclear capability but it less hostile to American or Israeli interests, which would seem the much smarter and sensible policy, given the commitment to effect it through diplomacy.
That does not mean that America or Israel needs to allow itself to be bullied by Iranians who might use such a weapon for nuclear brinksmanship. The American and Israeli capacity is clearly many times stronger, by any objective measure. It is true that an Iranian strike could do damage - likely to Israel, hence their heightened concern - that a retaliatory strike could not undo.
But it should be clear after 6 full years of consistent failure in the more provocative and aggressive direction that this policy is not effective, in the long term, and has serious counterproductive consequences that its advocates are not honestly accounting for.
Hadar's argument does more honestly account for those failures and encourage President Obama in the one feature of his policy thinking that is his biggest strength: his willingness to engage. Long term, an Iran less hostile to American and Israeli interests, and Americans and Israelis, or more tempered in its pursuit of nuclear ambitions, at least those that are hostile to Americans and Israelis, is far more desireable than an Iran in hot pursuit of nuclear weapons, and with a propensity to use them in hostile fashion, because we are in hot pursuit of their regime.
Americans and Israelis can continue to entertain the fantasy that a strike on Iran or some other form of strong-arming will finally bring Iran to bear under the will of its American and Israeli masters. But there is only more failure and danger that lies in that direction.
Perhaps a more reasoned and honestly effective policy might do better.
Wow. That's all I have to say.
Thomas Friedman shows his true colors in the New York Times, today, and what, sadly, very, very sadly, modern progressivism has reduced itself to in the last 10 years, especially.
China's autocracy has great advantages
"One-party autocracy certainly has its drawbacks. But when it is led by a reasonably enlightened group of people, as China is today, it can also have great advantages. That one party can just impose the politically difficult but critically important policies needed to move a society forward in the 21st century. It is not an accident that China is committed to overtaking us in electric cars, solar power, energy efficiency, batteries, nuclear power and wind power. China’s leaders understand that in a world of exploding populations and rising emerging-market middle classes, demand for clean power and energy efficiency is going to soar. Beijing wants to make sure that it owns that industry and is ordering the policies to do that, including boosting gasoline prices, from the top down."
You gotta read this piece of shit to believe it. I've always thought Thomas Friedman was an arrogant prick, frankly. But this opinion piece, today, takes the cake, I have to say.
There is a reason, Tom, why citizens of liberal democracies will be reading the likes of Lord Acton, Baron de Montesquieu, John Stuart Mill, Adam Smith, Mary Wolstonecraft, and the like hundreds of years from now, and Tom Friedman will be a long forgotten name.
Because they understood, better, why those liberal democratic values that you so boldly and unapologetically take for granted give you the opportunity to write such a pathetic little attack on those very values.
I love liberal democracy because it allows sad little hacks like Tom Friedman to say whatever the hell they want to say and then watch his party crash and burn while they try to follow his advice.
You know why?
Because the marketplace of ideas really does work. And Tom's just having a hard time coming to terms with the fact that his ideas are bad ones. And that is why we have checks and balances, separation of powers, liberal democratic institutions, and all the rest. To check, as much as possible, the hubris of sad, pathetic little men like Thomas Friedman.
I have literally zero respect for Mr. Friedman, at this point. It is hard for me to believe that people still read his books. I certainly will not. Except the way I read Marx. As a reminder of how important the contrary, stronger, and more honest liberal and democratic values that they are both so hostile to are so easily taken for granted because they make possible so many of our needs to be met and values to be expressed. Including the value of letting their enemies have as much say and as much rope as they want to hang themselves as much as they'd please.
What a very sad comment on the Democratic Party in the early 21st century. That so many of its members like Thomas Friedman would turn on the very values that made America so great, in the first place.
Could there be anything to more obvious demonstrate that Progressivism, at least in the 21st century, does not mean liberal in any recognizable way?
What a tragic comment on Americans. At least folks who would align themselves with something so imminently hostile to everything that makes the remarkable quality of our lives possible.
Andrew Bacevich, professor of history and international relations at Boston University, and one of the most respected conservative foreign policy experts in the country, and deservedly so, offers this question for our commitments in Afghanistan.
What alternatives other than open-ended war might enable the United States to achieve its limited interests in Afghanistan?
Should Obama go 'all in' on Afghanistan?
"The really big decisions have yet to be made. The biggest of all is simply this: Is the president willing to go for broke? Is he committed to Afghanistan as Obama's war -- committed as George W. Bush was to his war in Iraq? Is he willing to pull out the stops, regardless of the obstacles ahead, despite evidence of eroding public support and disregarding the fact that many in his own party oppose the war outright?
Obama's advisors -- Secretary of Defense Robert Gates, Joint Chiefs of Staff Chairman Michael Mullen and Army Gen. Stanley McChrystal, the commander on the ground in Afghanistan -- have been quite candid in arguing that half-measures won't suffice. The war is going badly. The Taliban is gaining in strength. Seven-plus years of allied efforts in Afghanistan have accomplished very little.
Even if the military's recently rediscovered catechism of counterinsurgency provides the basis for a new strategy, turning things around will take a very long time -- five to 10 years at least. Achieving success (however vaguely defined) will entail the expenditure of vast resources: treasure (no one will say how much) and, of course, blood (again, no one offers an estimate).
So the president faces a real challenge if he intends to make the case for starting from scratch in Afghanistan. To persuade the American people to buy in, he will have to reassure them on five points:
* Afghanistan constitutes a vital national security interest -- victory in this primitive, impoverished, landlocked and distant country will contribute materially to driving a stake through the heart of violent jihadism.
* Armed nation-building -- securing the Afghan population, developing the economy, building legitimate institutions, eliminating corruption and drug trafficking -- provides the most realistic and effective way to satisfy those interests.
* The failure of past efforts by other great powers to impose their will on Afghanistan is beside the point -- history has no relevant lessons to teach.
* The United States possesses the money, troops, expertise and will to get the job done -- notwithstanding the recession, the mushrooming deficit, the diminishing enthusiasm of our allies, the stress and strain already endured by U.S. forces and the uneven performance of government agencies in the analogous U.S. effort to "fix" Iraq.
* No other priorities, foreign or domestic, exist that outrank Afghanistan and should have first call on the resources that years of additional war will consume -- several hundred billion dollars and several hundred additional American lives by a conservative estimate.
Driving home these five propositions will require Obama to deploy all of his formidable powers of persuasion. Even if he manages to do so, he will then spend the rest of his presidency -- as the bills mount and the body count climbs -- defending and reaffirming them. As was the case with Harry Truman in Korea, Lyndon Johnson in Vietnam and Bush in Iraq, war will hold his presidency hostage.
Obama does not act impulsively. Before betting his remaining chips on Afghanistan, he will no doubt deliberate carefully. He will consult. He will sift through all the evidence. Yet before hitting the 'start over' button on Afghanistan, he would do well to consider the following: Sometimes the essence of leadership is not to render the right decision but to pose the right question."
It's an excellent read. And an excellent question.
I am convinced, like Michael O'Hanlon and I would imagine Andrew would agree, that any solution will involve some military presence. Like Iraq, if better security is not guaranteed to a new Afghan democracy, it is no guarantee that democratic political institutions will survive.
But as George Will has rightly argued, I believe, in his columns favoring pull-out in Afghanistan and Iraq, if the Afghani and Iraqi populations are not willing to defend and secure those institutions out of their own commitments, then no amount of American assistance will do a damn thing.
I am convinced that the populations in both Iraq and Afghanistan do want to maintain and defend their democratic institutions and to provide security for their people. The question today, as it was when we entered this war is, do they need our help?
Andrew is right, I think, to ask us to pause and consider alternatives, especially civil society, economic and political alternatives that might better help this situation.
In both cases, what people in these countries need to be reassured of is that we are not there to impose our will. We are there, primarily, to help them secure a democratic future, if they want it. If they don't, we should leave, I believe, unless there is evidence that a substantial enough number, in fact, do and are willing to establish and defend those institutions. But if they do want to build and defend democratic institutions, then Americans need to do what we can to support them in their own efforts and to let Afghanis and Iraqis be primarily responsible for all efforts to do so, with American support.
This was the mistake in the initial invasions in both countries, I believe. Americans believing that they could help remove thuggish rulers - and I happen to believe that the impulse to do good by the Afghanis and Iraqis did substantially motivate our military interventions, there, as cock-eyed as the debate and arguments made for those interventions square with that explanation; certainly that was not the only reason we invaded each, but doing good by the Afghanis and Iraqis and by us substantially motivated most of the players involved, I believe - without consulting citizens in these countries about whether removing their governments was something they actually desired. I think in both situations we would have found many people who did want to remove these governments with no reasonable recourse to do so and which a military intervention offerred the overwhelming military capacity to do so, and which would have been trusted, more, as a self-determined choice by the Afghanis and Iraqis had we allowed them to lead that effort and backed them up with our political and economic weight and with overwhelming military force.
We chose paths of uniltateral imposition of American military power instead of pathes of collaborations with self-determining populations and we have been dealing with the consequences of those choices, I believe.
And George Will is right. If these populations do not want us there or are not willing to support and defend their own democratic instituations and the building of a more liberal democratic culture, our efforts are futile.
I believe Afghanis and Iraqis are willing to support and secure their own democratic institutions. But I agree with George that the Afghanis (and Iraqis) must lead efforts to support and defend both and with Andrew that Americans should do so with the least amount of military commitment as possible, as a matter of wise policy, where the use of force is minimized as much as possible and where the peoples we help determine their own destinies, primarily, with our support for their self-determination and not for our own agendas.
If you know where to look, the debate about Afghanistan is a refreshing alternative to the failure to debate in a similarly thoughtful way before our initial invasion in either Afghanistan or Iraq. And, curiously enough, it is liberals like Michael O'Hanlon and Bruce Reidel who argue for sustained military commitment and conservatives like Bacevich and Will who argue for caution in such commitments.
That is what makes a mature liberal democracy and mature liberal democratic debate and discussion great. People thinking outside their boxes. And for themselves. And not romanticizing power as the means to get to all the right answers. Or even most of them.
Andrew's posed a good question. Something for us to think about.
Here's the bottom-line on this situation.
Documents on US-Lybian ties outrage IRA victims
I am deeply saddened by the fate of the victims of the Lockerbie terrorist bombing. What that man and the terrorists involved did was wrong and what happened to those people is tragic. Similarly, I am very sad for the people killed by the Irish Republic Army during that long and tragic conflict referenced in this most recent opportunity for some people to express outrage. Terrorism, in all of its forms, is wrong. And no person should have to live in fear of it.
But here's the no bullshit version of this situation.
If you do not want to be the more decent human being and let this man or Susan Atkins or anyone else go die in peace, even with their past inexcusable behavior, so be it.
But stop pretending that you are being the better person, for goodness fucking sakes.
You aren't. Those people who are acting out of compassion are.
If you can't bring yourself to be the better person. So be it. Keep it to yourself. And stop pretending that you are being a better person than you really are.
If you do not want to be a better person, make that choice and live with it. Namely, live with the fact that people who do choose to be the better person do not treat you or your reactions as better than they are.
Why in the world we are confusing the actions of those who are being better people with the reactions of people who openly and avowedly are not, I have not the faintest clue.
Don't be the better person. So be it. But noone needs to pretend like you are when you so clearly are not. And stop trying to bully and pressure people who are trying to do the right thing from doing so.
Go home and tell your wife and kids about why you can't bring yourself to be the better person. And if you're genuinely struggling with that fact and honestly trying to be the better person, that I'm right there with you and will support you the whole way.
But, in the case of so many folks acting like their outrage should be treated more seriously than it should, if you are really not interested in being a better person but just pretending that the reactions of someone who is not interested in being better should be given privilege over the actions of someone who really is being a better person, tell it to your wife and kids and stop acting like the world owes your baser instincts to be pandered to just because you don't wanna.
So you don't. Humble thyself. And learn to appreciate the examples of people who are being better people and doing the right thing.
And if looking in the mirror is too difficult for you to manage at this very moment, then find another time. But, for goodness sakes, stop acting like you really are being better than people who really are trying to do the right thing.
Go get honest with yourself. Stop bullying. And stop acting like a jackass is really the same thing as being a better man. Or woman. Or whatever may suit your fancy.
Some people have a lot of fucking gall. Be nice if that could be directed toward something worthy.
Former U.S. Ambassador to Baghdad, Ryan Crocker, has the strongest insider reflection on the Afghan and Iraq wars 8 years on that I have read to date. This is a must read for anyone concerned with these wars and what they mean for America.
Eight Years On: A diplomat's perspective on the post-9/11 world
"Americans tend to want to identify a problem, fix it, and then move on. Sometimes this works. Often it does not. Of course, imposing ourselves on hostile or chaotic societies is no solution either. The perceived arrogance and ignorance of overbearing powers can create new narratives of humiliation that will feed calls for vengeance centuries from now. What's needed in dealing with this world is a combination of understanding, persistence, and strategic patience to a degree that Americans, traditionally, have found hard to muster.
We have learned much since September 11, 2001, but we are still learning this lesson. As the war in Afghanistan enters its ninth year, with U.S. casualties rising and the Taliban revived, public opinion is turning against what was always, compared with Iraq, our 'good war.' No one, least of all me, has an easy fix to propose. But over the last eight years I was intimately involved with our country's effort to manage its relationship with the Middle East and South Asia. I know that success only comes from a solid, sustained commitment of resources and attention."
I highly recommend this article in its entirety and the video about Ryan Crocker and his long career efforts to end terrorism at the top of the first page of that story. Lots to learn in this column. And much that Ryan clearly has learned from his efforts over the last 8 years.
Ryan is right. Patience is the virtue we are in most need of in our efforts to make us safer, these days. As he says well, building confidence is a long process. Anything solid is built over time.
Patience is not a virtue I come by easily, always, is the truth. But it is that quality that we need, right now. Aggression is a more natural instinct. It is easier to come to anger and react against our hurt or our fear than it is to quiet the heart and bring a calmer, more dispassionate, more thoughtful consideration to our efforts. I am guilty of that former too often to recall. It is likely responsible for my most serious failures in life, is the truth. But much experience and reflection has taught me that it is better to acknowledge that failure than to pretend that it has served me better than it has.
America has failed often over this period. Many Americans would like to believe that it is President Bush who is responsible for their failures. But that wouldn't be honest. President Bush is responsible for his own failures. But we are also responsible for our own.
And the truth is that the aggression that has consumed America in the last 10 years in lieu of the patience and confidence-building that Ryan Crocker describes in this piece is the fault of most Americans. The truth is that the aggression that came to characterize the foreign policy efforts of the Bush Administration and has now come to characterize the domestic policy efforts of the Obama Administration is something that Americans have clamored for loudly in the last 10 years. And no matter how much it fails, we clamor for more.
It is exactly those instincts that led to the rise of Adolph Hitler. A scared, defeated, and desperate population turned to Hitler to discipline a nation and to use any and all means necessary, namely aggression, to force out of existence their problems and the supposed conspirators against their safety and prosperity.
It is one long dark, demented fantasy about aggression and power and what it could and could not do to make people and a nation strong.
And the truth is that America has been indulging a similar fantasy for the last 10 years, but with the thankful benefit of a mature democracy, with divided government, separation of powers, diverse political parties and peoples to check the abuses of power of their counterparts, and, most importantly, the freedom to speak out, to criticize, to call into question, to organize and protest, and to otherwise express their displeasure with this obsession with power among competing players. And we've enjoyed the freedom to go on living our lives while this national drama takes place without having to worry, as the citizens of Germany did, that this fantasy would become our own unintended nightmare.
It is people like Ryan Crocker, and not people like Adolph Hitler or Joseph Stalin, Mahmoud Ahmadinejad or Kim Jong Il, Paul Hill or Malcolm X, or any of the various representatives of the fantasies of power that Americans and peoples around the world have indulged, that represent real strength.
Real strength is not found in bullying our neighbors into submission. Real strength is the patience in engaging one another thoughtfully and honestly about differences and respecting the consciences and choices of our neighbors. Real strength is having faith in our capacity to work together and, in its fullest expression, to love one another, rather than giving into the temptation that aggression offers. As someone who has been given to that temptation, I understand its appeal. I also understand, with much experience, its failure to resolve what thoughtfulness and strong relationships and building confidence in ourselves and one another are better able.
To do so freely is what most people crave, I believe. To not be bullied into that position is what most people want in their deepest hearts, is my belief. If there is any one best explanation for the fact that younger generations seek more freedom than their parents' generation perpetually thinks is good for them or likely to lead in better directions, this is it, I think. To make that possible will involve much love and forgiveness, patience and understanding and letting go of our propensity to try to substitute aggression for trust in our relationships. It is a long and complex lesson that I have confidence that we are learning and will learn, slowly, patiently, with time. Myself included.
And that ability to make choices, even bad ones, and learn from them is what makes America, all liberal democracies, and homo sapiens, as a species, great. There is no other species on the planet that learns as well or as often as homo sapiens. It is a very special feature of our existence as human beings. It is the most special feature of our existence.
It would serve us better, I believe, to appreciate what all that learning has to offer.
Matthew Continetti has an excellent description of the relationship that most Americans, as reflected in the poll numbers and is consistent with my own personal experience, are feeling toward their government, right now. And for good reason.
People power: A wake-up call for America's political elites
"Congress returns this week, and here's hoping that its members, Democrats in particular, learned a little something from this summer's town hall meetings. The lesson to be drawn from these occasionally raucous events is that America is on the verge of--or already knee-deep in--one of those moments that periodically roil the country and rearrange our preconceived notions about public life. And not a moment too soon.
Popular outbursts serve as a check on, and corrective to, our elites' behavior. The people know things the elites forget or don't want to remember. The political class is supposed to serve the people, not the other way around. As Gerald Ford said after assuming the presidency on August 9, 1974, 'Here the people rule.'
For a while now, the message from Washington has been that we know what's good for the public, whether the public likes it or not. One after another, both parties have attempted to foist a series of grand reforms on a skeptical populace--in areas ranging from Social Security and immigration to energy and health care. Politicians have made decisions affecting millions of lives without accountability and oversight. The upshot has been more government, more debt, and--coming soon to a 1040 form near you--more taxes. No wonder the public is anxious.
It should hardly come as a surprise that the public views American elites with suspicion and disdain. Ordinary Americans have a point when they assign blame for the current mess to Wall Street CEOs, federal regulators, corrupt politicians, and gullible reporters. When Americans look at the economic landscape, they see dismal growth, high unemployment, and large deficits. But when they listen to the president and Congress, they hear that 'stimulus'--borrowing ever more from tomorrow to spend today--will work like some kind of magic cure. They hear that this perilous moment is the time to build a 'new foundation' with even more expenditures and taxes through 'cap-and-trade' and Obamacare. It's as if spending and debt are no problem; as if it's fine that the federal government--which failed in its fundamental duties to build guardrails for the financial system--owns large chunks of that system; as if the political, financial, and think-tank elites have proven themselves worthy of the public's trust."
The truth is that many political folks are also wrapped up in a political moment that ordinary citizens have clamored for, as much as they are, rightly, I believe, clamoring against it, today. It's a classic case of "Be careful what you wish for; you just might get it." Watching this period, I can see how despotism maintains itself. Public support for power to find magical solutions to all kinds of problems is not terribly difficult to come by, apparently. People tend to be seriously naive about power and what it can do and what it can't do, is my experience. The hard part is undoing what has been done. And the lucky thing about a democracy is that we can openly challenge arrangements that limit our say over our own lives. And we do, thankfully. As much as we get it wrong.
The truth is that Americans have as much responsibility in this era of romance with big government as much as their representatives. They are both wrong, I am convinced, that power can do the things they want done absent the consent and commitment of ordinary folks and that it doesn't frustrate the best efforts, in the process. That's the beauty of a democracy. Even when noone wants to take responsibility for their mistakes in this or any matter, there is always someone to check them and another opportunity to turn the ship around.
One thing is for sure. Political elites and most Americans need to get straight what many Americans have been getting straight this past summer. We do need to help one another when we need it. And we do need to be willing to show courage when others need it.
But, to do so, we cannot wait for a paternal government to force us or one another to make those things happen. We must be freely responsible for our own lives, first, and to build the strength necessary to share that strength with others. And that cannot happen when we are persistently looking to the goverment to build that strength for us and when we are the only ones who can do that for ourselves, in our lives, and it cannot happen when we are perpetually taking weaker routes and pretending that we are being stronger than we are.
Real strength comes from within. Not from the largesse of government. Not from defeating an opponent. Not from feigning superiority in any matter to compensate for self-doubt about where strength more real might lie.
Real strength is the kind that we build for ourselves and from within ourselves that does good because it is the right thing to do, not because someone else or something else is looking over our shoulders or compelling our will. Especially when that someone or something else might be and often is wrong. With real strength comes the humility to acknowledge that you might be wrong, which leaves you more humble in the use of power over the lives of others, not more emboldened. Those who romanticize power as an elixir to fix all problems are engaging in fantasy and conceit about their abilities and the abilities of power to do more than it can. They are not strong, no matter how much they pretend to be so. And the results of their efforts have failed in spades, absent the voluntary efforts of peoples, like the American people, to fulfill worthy visions out of a sense of honest commitment to the needs of others. To pretend otherwise is to demean those efforts. And, sadly, that is exactly what we have been doing for the last 10 years, in particular. But, really, for much of humanity's history.
Freedom is the heart of liberal values for a reason. Because it is the value that best respects the choices and self-determination of all people more honestly.
And no amount of cynicism about our capacity to manipulate others for our own more self-centered purposes will ever compensate for that genuine commitment that made America and all liberal democracies great, no government oversight necessary. Government has limited purposes it does well. We have assigned it responsibilities that it cannot sustain that we need to engage in more thoughtful discussion about how they might be maintained in a more sustainable and financially and otherwise healthy fashion. Most of the major liberal democratic governments have had serious problems financing these worthy efforts, as much as their and our insatiable appetites. All of them will need to face this fact if we are to build programs of real strength to genuinely care for our neighbors in need.
But, first and foremost, Americans and others need to look into themselves and ask themselves what they need to be doing to help build the strengths necessary to share with their family, friends, and neighbors before they look to government to provide those things for them.
"Ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country," was as good a way of putting that as any.
That is the spirit Americans and the world are missing, today, as we rush to care for the needs of others but fail to consider the benefits and the necessity of expecting people to contribute their own efforts to guarantee more safe, healthy, well educated, financially secure, freely chosen and responsible lives for everyone. Ordinary Americans, ordinary Iraqis, ordinary Afghanis and ordinary peoples around the world find themselves in that same position, with more or less freedom to do that successfully being the most important distinction between their existences.
If despotism, terrorism, and tyranical forces of all kinds are to ever end, we will all need to end our fantasies of power swooping in to fix our problems that only our own efforts and the efforts of friends and neighbors can ever finally resolve. That kind of confidence and the efforts that come with it are our only hope for the kind of solutions we are looking for, if we will only offer them up.
And that world is one we can and will rightly be proud that we created for our children. Because it is that world, alone, that will allow them to live safely and freely to pursue the kinds of ambitions that make the free world such a remarkable place to live.
For those not convinced that Christian music has come in its own, folks like Tobymac and Brandon Heath have something to say about it. And they have talent to back it up.
Nice to have a positive alternative for my kids to listen to one day, if they choose.
One of my favorite songs on the radio, these days, and for a long time now.
We need to have confidence in who we are. And stop being scared of our shadows.
One man thought that, at least. He was right.
Are the terrorists right?
That's the question we need to ask ourselves today.
Are they right? Are we weak? Are we soft? Are we too liberal?
If so, why are we fighting them? Aren't they right? Shouldn't we be joining their ranks? Isn't liberalism the problem and illiberalism the answer?
And, if not, why are we scared? If our liberal values make us strong, what are we scared of?
Our own shadows, by my lights.
How sad to watch the strongest peoples in the history of humanity be scared of their own shadows. Enough that they would follow a path of illiberalism, reversing all the progress they have made in more than 200 years of more liberal democracy, out of fear that what makes them so great is what makes them weak.
If we are weak, and the terrorists are strong, we need to go about the business of being strong like the terrorists. And becoming just as brutal, just as vengeful, just as unforgiving as they are. Not some half-ass compromise. Because if they are strong, we need to be strong like them. Not some bullshit half-measure.
But if not, if we are strong, then we need to confident in who we are. And be strong. And all of the compassion, humanity, liberty and values that comes with that strength.
What we need to do is choose. We need to shit or get off the pot.
I know my choice.
Do you?
It's so ironic. This sad little replay.
It is the exact same line that brought Adolph Hitler to power. It is the very reasoning that has brought and kept most despots in power for most of humanity's history. It's nothing new. Same ol', same ol'. Or, if you believed the Nazis, a whole new path to progress.
Compassion is weakness. Force is strength.
You know what's supremely ironic about using it in this case?
82% Oppose Decision to Release Lockerbie Terrorist
It is exactly the logic of terrorism.
If you want a root cause to terrorism, this is it.
If you observe all of the rhetoric and action of terrorists, and almost all radical political activity and the boldest, most violent criminal activity, not to mention most despots of any serious note, this is the logic and the source of their efforts. Almost without exception.
Which leaves us with really two choices, fundamentally.
One, that if we were really honest with ourselves, we're just not living up to what we know, down deep, is our truest expression of our values.
Or, two, that the terrorists are right. And we are wrong. That we are weak. And they are strong.
That is the logical conclusion of that line of reasoning. Not only that conclusion, but the much more honest conclusion. That Hitler and Stalin embodied strength. Whereas we are only cowards, too afraid to use power how it should be used.
Or perhaps we are just not as bad as them.
That's better, right?
To not be quite as bad as Hitler and Stalin? To not be quite as bad as Al Queda, Hamas, Hezbollah, and all the rest?
Or, perhaps, like many of my radical friends of the left and right, we aim to be exactly as bad as all of those folks. Or at least pretend to be as much as it will intimidate our way into our aims.
That is the direction of progress. Or so every thug who has ever walked the earth would have us believe.
Perhaps they are right. Perhaps we are weak and they are strong. Jesus loves you. But he doesn't pack heat. Might may not make right, but it tells you what the fuck to do. Or maybe it does make right. With enough persuasion, that is. Or maybe compassionate folks like Jesus really were the enemy all along and we were just too blind to know to tell him what the fuck he could do with all that love and bullshit.
Compassion is weakness. Power is strength.
We are weak. They are strong.
Force is the path of progess for the strong and courageous.
Freedom is the path of failure for the weak and compassionate.
Liberalism is weak. Illiberalism is strong.
The strong don't apologize. And they certainly don't forgive.
Manson follower Susan Atkins loses 13th attempt at freedom -- and it may be her last
"Former Manson prosecutor Vincent Bugliosi said it was time for the state to show Atkins mercy. He told The Times last year that it was wrong to say 'just because Susan Atkins showed no mercy to her victims, we therefore are duty-bound to follow her inhumanity and show no mercy to her.'
“She’s already paid substantially for her crime, close to 40 years behind bars. She has terminal cancer. The mercy she was asking for is so minuscule. She’s about to die. It’s not like we’re going to see her down at Disneyland,” said Bugliosi, who wrote the best-selling book 'Helter Skelter.'"
But that's because Vincent Bugliosi is weak. And we are strong.
Perhaps what we have not considered is that these people we are killing have a point. Perhaps Hitler was right all along. Al Queda as well.
We have tried freedom. And it, not us, is responsible for our failures. Freedom made life worse. We were but innocent bystanders. Liberalism is our shameful past. It is time to shackle it.
Or. Perhaps Hitler was a coward. Who would not face honestly his weakness. Perhaps Bin Laden is the same.
And perhaps we are too.
Perhaps we might at least be honest about that direction.
And not confuse it with something more honest.
Or maybe we can just do better.
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