Freedom and making life better
It's starting to occur to me after a conversation with a colleague, today, that much of this conversation, today, is about different outlooks on freedom, entitlement and fucking up, and the choices people make in a lifetime.
I think a lot of people interpret the more libertarian and liberal ideas about life as their own sense of entitlement - to sin, to do bad, to destroy the earth, to fuck up whatever it is that we imagine that government will protect us from being fucked up.
At some level, there is truth to the idea that I think people should have the freedom to fuck up, completely independent of the consequential benefit of the learning that comes from the fucking up. It is the consequential debate where I think the more libertarian and more genuinely liberal argument is strongest. It is Maslow's argument, and I happen to think, from much personal experience and watching other peoples' experiences, that he is right about it. People tend to make better choices the more freedom they have. And one of the important reasons for this is that the more their freedom is obstructed, the less genuine credit and responsibility they tend to take for both good and bad choices. Freedom does tend to promote ownership, in all the various permutations of that argument. But especially around choices we make.
Some people look at Elliot Spitzer and they say, "That asshole thought he could prosecute prostitution rings and then get his willy wet at one, for himself, and then he thought that the world should give him a pass because he's a man and yada, yada, yada sense of entitlement that he thinks he has for cheating on his wife and fuckin' that whore. He's gets to have a good time, his wife gets left out in the cold, he gets forgiven, and she gets all the heartache while he gets all the fun and he doesn't have to face any music for the whole ordeal he's created."
I mean, at some level, that is the reason for laws around prostitution. To discourage cheating. To discourage lewd sexual behavior in public and within the sight of children. To remove temptation for men. To limit the competition, if we're being honest, for God-fearing women without the prostitute's bag of tricks (or often the inclination to have or feel like she has to have a bag of tricks) to entice a man.
We limit freedom because we figure that people want it to do all kinds of bad shit and we want to limit that bad shit, so the more we limit it the less bad shit we'll deal with. I mean, now, obviously, the whole prositution angle demonstrates that it's all bullshit. We all know that profession's been with us since the beginning of God knows when. We know it's not going away because it's illegal. It's actually the strongest demonstration, much bigger than this foolish drug war, of the failure of force and the law to make problems go away. But that's the reason why we made it illegal how many thousands of years ago and the reason why we keep that stupid fuckin' law on the fuckin' books. Because, at some stupid level, we figure, laws make bad things go away. Can't do any harm. Until it does, as in the case of Elliot Spitzer (Is there really any need to put this guy in jail? I mean c'mon. Can't we ever stop being such self-righteous pricks. And I mean all of it. The money. The prostitution. The being Governor. All of it).
We look at Elliot Spitzer and we say, "Look at that asshole. He thinks he can just do whatever the fuck he wants. He can prosecute prostitution rings zealously, in one moment, and then get his dick sucked by some 22-year-old in some other moment. And he thinks he can do all of that and be Governor and do whatever the fuck he wants and go home to his wife and have it all forgiven and that will be that. Fuck him. He's gonna fuckin' pay for that bullshit, that self-righteous, selfish piece shit. It's the law. And there is nothing more sacrosanct than the law, other than my sanctimonious anger at Spitzer and the world for being such a fucked up place. That fucker's going down."
Except it's all bullshit, of course. Noone thinks the law is sacrosanct when they break it. They only think it's sacrosanct when someone else is breaking it, if then. It's not the law that really says anything about the goodness and badness of anyone's actions. It's whether they fuckin' hurt other people in a way that is outside of a reasonable scope of freedom. And then assholes work to squeeze that down the smallest fuckin' sphere possible. And people like me work to keep it as broad as possible, so we can fuck up and learn the lesson. And everyone else just fuckin' shakes their head and says, "Well, it is the law," which perpetually strengthens the hand of the assholes, which they know, and which they take full advantage of. And, hence, the advent of the radical, the clever-by-half little shithead who has figured this all out and manipulates people to their advantage on behalf of this petty little principle. Left and right. Nazi and Communist. And the all the little radical assholes in between.
Look, I understand the concerns about all the ways people abuse freedom. I don't rationalize them. If they are legitimate abuses - which really is much of the crux and that only a liberal democratic conversation/debate can sort out - then they shouldn't be rationalized. Having said that, people fuck them up so regularly and they learn so much more effectively with the freedom to fuck it up than from having someone try to impose a lesson on them that the only direction that makes sense is more freedom. But we just can't ever seem to get that straight. And it fucks all of us. And it always will until we get clearer about it.
And, at this point, I am fuckin' tired of having this conversation like the advocates of repression have a stronger argument or somehow achieve more than they really do. I am tired of watching their failures, the failures of that argument and its corresponding consequences in reality, and pretending with people, "Hey, your good intentions have clearly manifested themselves in a better reality. Thank goodness for all that repression. What would we do without you assholes?"
And if you're in fuckin' Myanmar or Iran or Iraq or North Korea or Cuba or China or anywhere in the world where liberalization is still not taken nearly seriously enough, and you care about freedom and liberal values, you've got to be looking at America and the West and thinking, "Do they fuckin' care about freedom and liberal values or not? They're fuckin' schizophrenic. The whole fuckin' lot of them. Fuck the West. And fuck my repressive fuckin' government. Fuck the whole lot of them. Where can I get loaded?"
It's just so fuckin' stupid. The whole fuckin' thing.
I know that people are worried that freedom leads to entitlement. And entitlement to fuck up and betray peoples' trust and get away with it scot-free.
It's just not true. Freedom offers the most effective route to learning the lesson and taking responsibility and internalizing the lesson and the understanding that produces it as a part of a person's conscience. You cannot force it any other way. There is no law that does or could ever compensate for that fact of life. At best, prison and the law contains a person for awhile. But it doesn't get the lesson learned. And the cynics among these assholes rationalize, "Well, they're never going to learn the lesson anyways," never pausing to wonder, "Could it have something to do with me and how I'm handling things? Nah. Couldn't be." And we are just too goddamn stubborn to admit this error and this most serious, persistent, and important error over the course of all the history of humanity.
I mean, over the course of history, this is the big fuck-up. This is the cause for most of our misery. And no matter how much liberal democracy, liberal values, freedom and democracy and all the good it produces makes life better, we just can't ever seem to let go of it. Because we're morons, that's why. And we're scared. And we just can't let go of this foolish, counterproductive, long-discredited logic.
Because we're all just kind of stupid. And scared.
And human.
Maybe we can learn to embrace the fact that we are human. And move on to be a little better.
Just maybe.
Here's the bottom-line, though:
There is no progress in any other direction. Every other direction is regress, by any objective standard. You not convinced of that, yet? Keep watching. If you're open to being persuaded, it will become crystal clear soon enough. And if you're not open to being wrong, your opinion was worthless the first time.
